Kuchinja Kunobatsira Pashure Kokuzivikanwa Kwekenza

"Handidi kuda kenza kune ani zvake, asi kutarisa kumashure, kune nzira dzokuti ndiri munhu ari nani kupfuura dai ndisina kumbobvira ndava nekenza." - Anonymous

Wakambonzwa here munhu achiti ivo vanhu vari nani kana kunakidzwa nehupenyu zvakare kubva pakuonekwa kuti vane kenza? Mikana ndeyekuti, zvinopfuura kungofunga kufunga. Kutsvakurudza kunotitaurira kuti vanhu vazhinji vanoona imwe nzira ye "posttraumatic growth". Mashoko mazhinji nemitsara yakashandiswa kurondedzera kuchinja uku mushure mekenza, zvakadai se:

• Siriri linings
• Zvakanakira kenza
• "Kenza ipi yakandidzidzisa"
• Kuita zvinoreva, kugadzira pfungwa, kana kubatsirwa kuwana
• Upenyu hunochinja kuchinja
• Zvikomborero zvekenza, kana kunyange
• Chipo chekenza

Zvechokwadi, hapana munhu aizopfuura nekenza nechisarudzo, asi kune 14.5 mamiriyoni (uye achikura) vanhu muUnited States avo vakaona kutyisidzira kuhupenyu huri kenza, zvingava zvekunyaradzwa kwekuziva kuti kazhinji, pane zvinyorwa zvesirivha .

Kunyange zvazvo kwete vose vanoita zvirwere zvepabonde zvakakosha kukura, inenge hafu yeviri kusvika kune chetatu yevakasara vanobvuma kune dzimwe shanduko dzakanaka. Kazhinji, vanhu vanogona kuwana humwe hutano hwakanaka hwave huchave huripo kubva pakucherechedza kwavo. Nokuda kwezvinangwa zvechikamu chino, tichashandisa tsanangudzo yakajairika yevanopinda mucheche. Mumwe munhu anorwara nekenza ani naani ane kenza, kubvira pazuva raanoonekwa, uye kuburikidza nehupenyu hwavo hwose.

Kukura kwemashure kunowanzoitika mumamiriro ezvinhu akawanda ari kutyisa upenyu kana kuunza kushushikana kukuru, kusanganisira chirwere. Zvidzidzo zvakawana uchapupu hwekukura kwevanhu mukati mevanhu vane marudzi ose ekenza uye zvikamu zvose zvechirwere, kunyange zvazvo huwandu uye rudzi rwekuchinja kune mumwe nomumwe. Kunyange zvazvo shoko rokuti posttraumatic kukura risiri mutsva, pfungwa yekutambura inotungamirira kushanduka inodzokera shure kwekutanga kwezvinyorwa zvakanyorwa uye zvinotaurwa muzvizhinji zvezvitendero zvikuru zvenyika.

Maji anotevera anotsanangura mhando dzakasiyana dzekuchinja kunoonekwa mukutsvakurudza. Sezvaunoverenga kuburikidza ne "zvibatsiro," funga pamusoro pekuti kenza yakabata sei hupenyu hwako. Usapotsa mapeji okupedzisira, zvisinei, izvo zvinotsanangura kuchinja uku mumashoko evanopona nekenza, kuteverwa nemazano ekusimudzira iwe pachako kukura kwekuwedzera.

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Kuonga Kwoupenyu

Nyaya dzakawanda dzekutsvaga kwekukura kwekenza varwere vakawana kuonga patsva kwehupenyu kuti ive imwe yenhenda yakawanda yakawanda yesirivha.

Zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kurondedzera manzwiro aya kune mumwe munhu asina kurarama nekenza (kana chimwe chezvimwe zvinotambudza kana mamiriro ezvinhu anotyisa).

Iko kutarisa mumaziso evanhu pamusangano wegore negore weLUNGevity HOPE-vakawanda vasina kumbosangana nemumwe muparadzi wemapapu emapapu-ikozvino mune imwe nzvimbo yakakwana yakazara nevanopinda mukenza yemapapu. Uye kune avo vakapona, kuziva vakawanda varipo nekuda kwekufambira mberi kwekenza kurapwa kwakaitika mugore rapfuura kana maviri.

Ndizvo zvatinoona mumufaro usingakanganisi wemwana wemakore maviri achiona shiri itsva, kana gungwa, kana kunyange mukadzibug kwekutanga. Rudzi rwemwana-runotyisa uye runoshamisa.

Jim Morrison uyo aipona mucheche wemaperembudzi anotora kukudzwa uku kwekuzvarwa kweupenyu zvakanaka mubhuku rake To See Another Sunrise. Kubuda kwezuva kunogamuchira muzuva idzva kune chimwe chinhu chehupenyu chisingatorerwi mushure mekenza.

Sei tisingafariri upenyu kune iyi dhigiri musati wekenza? Zvakanaka, vamwe vanhu vane ruzivo vanoita. Asi vazhinji vedu tinoona zvishoma zvishoma nokuti zvimwe zvatinotarisa zvinotungamirirwa kune zvakaitika kare kana kutungamirirwa kune ramangwana. Nekenza, vanhu vanogona kurarama zviri nyore panguva ino. Sei? Pano pane kufunga kusingafungidziki kuti nguva ino ingava yese yatinayo.

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Kuvandudza Ukama

Pane chimwe chinhu chisingashanduki nekuongororwa kwekenza, iyo kuva kuti kuchava nekushanduka. Vanhu vaimbove vazivana navo vangava shamwari dzako dzakavimbika, asi dzimwe shamwari dzako dzepedyo dzinogona kupera. Ukama hwakanaka hunosimbiswa, uye hukama hwakanaka huri kurega kuenda.

Pakati pehukama hunosimbiswa, vapenyu vanorwara nekenza vanowanzonzwa kunzwa kukurukurirana mupfungwa. Kanzira inopa mukana wakasiyana-siyana wekushungurudzika uye kuratidza manzwiro akadzika. Uku kusununguka kunogona kutungamirira kune ushamwari, hukama hukama hwepedyo.

Kudzika kwehukama hunojairika pakati pevanorwara nekenza kunoenda kumativi maviri. Vanhu vazhinji vane kenza vanoziva-dzimwe nguva kwenguva yekutanga-kukosha kwavari kune vamwe, uye zvakadini shamwari neshamwari dzinonyatsotarisira. Panguva imwecheteyo, vanopukunyuka kenza kazhinji vanowedzera kunzwira tsitsi, zvichiita kuti vadiwa vavo vanzwe vachidiwa zvikuru uye vane hanyawo.

Zvakakosha kuratidza kuti kukura kwakanaka hakuna kufanana nekuva nepfungwa dzakanaka. Ichokwadi, kudzika muhukama kunowanzoonekwa mukukwanisa kuratidza zvakajeka mafungiro asina kunaka anoenda pamwe nekuongororwa kwekenza.

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Tsitsi kune vamwe

Kwose kunzwira urombo, kukwanisa kupinda mune shangu dzeumwe, uye tsitsi, kutarisira kune mumweya nemoyo wose, zvinowanzoonekwa pakati pevanhu vane chirwere.

Kunyangwe iwe wakanga uine tsitsi uye unhu mushure mekuziva kwako, iwe pachako unosangana nekunetseka kwekenza kunogona kusimudzira kuziva kwako mimwe miedzo inogona kuitika.

Kana iwe usina kumboona kuwedzera kwakajeka mupfungwa yako yenyasha, iwe unogona kunge uchitaura nezvimwe nyaya dzekuwedzera kwekunzwira tsitsi kunowanikwa pakati pevanopona. Zvinhu zvakadai sekutengeswa kweTV kuratidza vana vane nzara vachienda kune awa yekuchema.

Zvinotenderera izvi ndeyekuvhara sirivha ndiyo inoramba ichipa. Nzira yakanakisisa yekugadzirisa kushushikana uye kusava nechokwadi kunofambidzana ne "scanxiety" uye kutya kwekudzoka ndeyekushandira kubatsira vamwe vanorwara nekenza.

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Kupiwa simba

Kuongororwa kwekenza masimba vanopona kukudziridza unyanzvi hwokugadzirisa matambudziko uye maitiro ekugadzirisa zvakasiyana nezvimwe zvisati zvaitika. Kanzira inhambo yekuparara inotanga ne-in-yekudzidzira basa kudzidzisa zuva raunowanikwa uye rinoda kuronga dzimwe nguva nzira isina kukodzera kuburikidza nemishonga uye nyanzvi.

Ichi chikomborero icho kune vazhinji vanopukunyuka kenza, hutsva hutsva uye humwe hutano hunogona kubatsira pakatarisana nematambudziko asina kukonzerwa nekenza zvakare. Zvidzidzo zvinotitaurira kuti unyanzvi hwakawana mukufamba kwekenza hunoenda kune dzimwe nzvimbo dzehupenyu hwedu. Unyanzvi huri-chibereko chekutaurirana nenzira yako kuburikidza nekurapa kunogona kubatsira mukugadzirisa matambudziko ehupenyu huripo kubva pakugadzira kamukira kubatsira mwana wako kusarudza chuoji. Uye unyanzvi huripo hunouya kubva kurarama kunyange nguva pfupi nekenza? Icho chinhu chikuru chedu chinogona kubatsirwa kubva kune rimwe nerimwe zuva.

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Simba uye Kuzvininipisa

Pane t-shati inoparidzira: "Hauna kumboziva kuti iwe une simba sei kusvikira usimba ndicho chete chisarudzo chaunacho." Haasi munhu wose ane kenza yaizoenda zvakanyanya sezvakaitwa naNietzsche achiti, "Chii chisingakuurayi chinokusimbisa," asi vazhinji vanopukunyuka kenza vanotaura nezvekuwana "simba rakavanzika" ravakanga vasingazivi kuti vaive naro vasati vaona.

Iyi pfungwa ye simba inouya nekuzvininipisa-kunzwisisa zvaunokwanisa kuita, uye kugamuchirwa kukuru kwekutambura kwako. Mune mamwe mazwi, vazhinji vanopukunyirwa nekenza havazofungidziri kuita saPapaye . Zvatinoona kakawanda simba runyararo-simba risingobatsiri chete vanopukunyuka kurarama mune dzimwe nzvimbo dzehupenyu zvinoda simba rakaderera asi rinokonzera kugamuchirwa uye kutsigira kune vakangobva kuongororwa vane chirwere chekenza vanosangana navo. Ichokwadi, kunze kwekupa manzwiro ekuti "iwe hausi woga," izvi zvinogona kunge ndezvimwe zvezvibatsiro zveboka rekusimbisa kenza.

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Uchenjeri uye Zvinhu zvinokosha

Vanhu vazhinji vanocherechedza kuchinja kukuru kwezvinhu zvinokosha pashure pekuongororwa kwekenza. Zvinhu zvakambove zvakatumirwa ku "rimwe zuva" zvinotamirwa kubva pasi pekunyorera kusvika kumusoro. Zvakaitika kare zvinokurumidzira, zvinoita sokuti hazvina kukurumidza. Uye mabasa anokosha zvakakosha? Vanogona kubviswa zvachose.

Iko kushanduka kwezvinhu zvakakosha haisi kungochinja kwechinguva muhuwandu hwemabasa ezuva nezuva nekuda kwekurongwa kwemishonga, asi pane kudaro, kazhinji, kuchinja kusingaperi muhupenyu hwehupenyu. Chinokosha pamberi pemukenza chakasiyana nezvakakosha mushure mekenza.

Basa-hupenyu hwehutano hunochinja kuvanhu vazhinji vanogara nekenza. Pakutanga, dzimwe shanduko dzinogona kudikanwa nekuda kwekurapa, asi kushanduka kwekusingaperi kunobva pane kuchinja kwezvinokosha. Kana iwe wakanga uchishanda maawa makumi matanhatu emabasa ekuudza mhuri yako unoderedza basa uye unopedza nguva yakawanda nemhuri "rimwe zuva," rimwe zuva ringadaro riri ikozvino. Izvi ndezvechokwadi kwete kuvanhu vane kenza yepamusoro vane kuponesa kusingazivikanwi, asi kune vanhu vakawanda vane kenza yekare-kare.

Chimwe chinhu chisinganyanyo-pachena-chinoratidza kuisa pfungwa mberi kune "rubatsiro" rwekenza ndeyokuti vazhinji vanopona vanogona kusunungura maitiro akareba kwenguva refu uye kutsamwa. Haisi kungoda kudzorera rugare, asi somuponesi mumwechete wekenza akati: "Ndakaona nguva yakawanda inotora kuti ndichengetedze amai vangu, uye ini handichadi kuparadza nguva iyoyo nesimba." Zvechokwadi, haasi kushungurudzika kunosunungurwa, uye kudzidzira kurega kuenda kurarama zvakanaka nekenza chirwere chinoramba chichiitwa kune ani naani anobata pamwe nevamwe vanhu vasingapfuuri-vakakwana.

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Utano Kuziva uye Kuzvitarisira

Zvidzidzo zvinotiudza kuti kuchinja kwakafanana kune avo vanopukunyuka kenza ndezvekuda kwehutano hwehutano. Zvichida ndiko kuziva kuti hatina kurwara nekenza, kana chido chekuwedzera upenyu kana kuderedza ngozi yekudzokorora, asi vazhinji vanopona vanodya kudya kwakanaka uye vanoedza kuwedzerera maitiro avo ezuva nezuva (mukati mekurapa).

Kuwedzera kwehutano hwehutano hwepanyama hunojairika, asi vazhinji vanopona vanotaurawo kuwedzera kwekuziva kwehutano hwepfungwa pamwe chete. Ukama hunokosha hunosimbiswa, uye hukama husina kunaka hunoongororwa.

Kupindura varwere vazhinji vanoda kuisa pfungwa dzepfungwa mupfungwa yavo mukurapa kwavo, vazhinji vanorwara nekenza iye zvino vanopa mishonga inokonzerwa nekenza yakafanana nekufungisisa , kuisa massage , yoga , nekugadzirisa muviri , uye kugadzira zvirongwa, zvakadai sehutano hwehutano .

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Zvitsva Possiblities

Iyi "sirivha yakagadzirwa" ingasave yakajeka. Sei kuongororwa kwekenza-kunyanya kana iri kenza ine chirwere chisina kunaka-kuva musuo wezviitiko zvitsva? Kana uri kuomerwa nekufananidza chirwere nenzira iyi, zvibvunze kuti: "Pane mumwe munhu waungadai usina kusangana kana iwe usina kenza here? Pane nzvimbo ipi yaungadai usina kuenda kana usina kenza? pane chero zvinhu zvitsva zvausingave wakaedza dai usina kenza? "

Vazhinji vedu tinosangana nevanhu vatsva panguva yedu rwendo rwekenza. Inogona kunge iri mukliniki yekenza kana muboka rekutsigira. Inogona kunge iri vavakidzani kana vanoziva vasingazivikanwi vanoita sevanouya kubva mumatanda, kazhinji nokuti ivo kana vadikanwa vakawana kenza. Zvinogona kungova kungoita basa raunotamba mumhuri yako kuchinja.

Paunosangana nevanhu vatsva, unosangana nevanhu vanofarira zviitiko zvakasiyana, uye izvi zvinovhura mikana mitsva.

Zvechokwadi, kutanga kwezvinhu zvitsva uye zvakaitika zvekurapa kenza ndeimwe chinhu chaunogona kugara kunze. Asi kunyange panguva yevanopona kurapwa kazhinji vanotanga-kana pakupedzisira vanoenda kune-zvinhu zvavanofarira. Zvichida kuti ikozvino uri kuverenga zvinyorwa izvi iwe wakagara uchida kuti uwane nguva yekuverenga.

Sezvo nguva ichienderera mberi, uye nekunyoresa kwemashoko ako akashanduka, unogona kutarisa zvinhu pane bhakiti rako-urongwa hwezvinhu zvawakagara uchitarisira kuita usati wafa. Sei uchimirira?

Chii chawakagara uchida kuita? Tambai piyano? Dzidza kutamba gorofu? Kufamba?

Vazhinji vedu vane kenza vanonzwisisa zvikomborero zvebhaketani. Kana iwe usina kutanga, nhasi izuva rakanaka kutanga. Uye ramba uchifunga mupfungwa dzako: kana iwe ukasvika kumagumo echitoro chako, iwe unogona nguva dzose kutanga imwe.

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Kuwedzera Kunamata

Kuwedzera kwakadzama kwekunamata kunowanzoonekwa pakati pevanhu vanorarama nekenza.

I National Cancer Society inotsanangura kunamata sekutenda kwemunhu nezvechinangwa cheupenyu. Kune vamwe vanhu, kunamata kunoratidzwa kuburikidza nechitendero chakarongeka, kune vamwe, chimiro ichi chinowanikwa kuburikidza nehutano, kutaurirana nemasikirwo, kana kufungisisa kwakanyarara.

Kune avo vane kutenda kwechitendero, kutenda uku kunowedzera kuwedzera panguva yekurapa. Kune avo vanoratidzira ukama hwavo hwemweya kuburikidza nehupenzi, vanowanzonzwa vachibatana zvikuru kune vamwe vanozvitaura ivo nenzira iyi. Kune avo vanoda mararamiro, kudzika kwekunzwa munguva yekufamba musango kunogona kuwedzera.

Hazvisi kuti ukama hwenyama hahupo kune vanhu vasati vasangana nekenza. Asi, "kumuka" kudanwa kwekenza kunogona kunge kuri kukonzera hupenyu hutsika uye mabasa ehupenyu ari kunyanya kuwirirana

Sezvo kuwedzerwa kubatsiri kune "kubatsirwa," kunamata kunogona kutotora chikamu mumugumisiro wekenza maererano nezvishoma zvidzidzo zvishomanana.

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Kuwana Zvikomborero Mufambiro Wenyu Wekenza

Iwe unogona kunge wakatsvaga nedzimwe tsvakurudzo pamagetsi ekudzoka shure, kana kuti zvimwe wakazviona iwe mune dzimwe nyaya kubva kune vamwe vanopukunyuka kenza avo vakawana sirivha muzvifambi zvavo. Ongororo dzinofadza dziri kutarisa nzira dzinogona kuwedzera vanhu kukura kwavo kuburikidza nerwendo rwavo rwekenza. Kune rumwe rutivi, unogona kunge uchinzwa wakaneta, uye unogona kunge usingadi kufunga pamusoro pechinhu chipi nechipi chingave chakanaka pamusoro pokuva nekenza.

Heano mamwe mazano ekuwana uye kukura mazano:

• Ramba uchitsvaga zvinyorwa zvesirivha. Vamwe vanhu vane kenza havanzwisisi kuchinja kwakanaka kwakaitika kusvikira vanyatsoongorora. Funga nezvekutaura rwendo rwako rwekenza . Iwe unogona kuda kubvunza vadiwa vako kuti vakakuona sei uchikura kubvira pawakarangarira.
• Tarisa mazano aya ekunakidza hupenyu hwako nekudzidza kufarira nguva.
• Funga nezvekuti hukama hwako hunokosha huri nani sei pamusoro penzira yekufamba kwekenza yako kusvika ikozvino. Taura nevanhu ivavo pamusoro pemanzwiro ako.
• Funga nezvechinhu chaungaita ikozvino chausingafungi kuita pamberi pekenza. Kana, funga nezvomumwe munhu waive nemukana wekusangana naye kuti iwe ungadai usina kunge wakambosangana naye.
• Pane zvinhu zvakakosha kana zvisingakoshi kwamuri ikozvino kubvira pawakarongerwa?
• Kuva nehutano hwakanaka hakusi kungopa simba asi kunogona kuderedza dambudziko rekudzoka kwevamwe kanzira. Tarisa kunze kweAmerican Institute for Cancer Research Guidelines for Vancer Cancer.

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