Ko Autistic Vakakura Vane Vana Here?
Munhu mukuru ane autism angava mubereki anobudirira here? Mhinduro ndeyechokwadi hongu, pasi pemamiriro ezvinhu akanaka. Kunyange zvazvo munhu ane uwandu hwemotokari uye yakaoma isingakwanisi kuva nehutano kumubereki mwana, vanhu vakawanda vane hukuru hwekushandisa autism vakagadzirira, vanoda, uye vanogona kutora matambudziko ekurera vana. Zvinhu zvakawanda zvekurera vana zvinonetsa kune vamamai nebaba pamutambo.
Izvozvi, zvisinei, zvakare ndezvechokwadi: kune dzimwe nzira dzokuti kuberekwa zviri nyore kana iwe uri autistic (kunyanya kana iwe une vana pa autism spectrum).
Kushanda Kwepamusoro Autism uye Parenthood
Muna 1994, Kuongorora uye Statistical Manual yeMental Disorders (DSM) yakashandurwa kuti inosanganisira nzira itsva ye autism. Ainzi Asperger syndrome , yaisanganisira vanhu vaisambofungidzirwa kuva autistic. Kuwedzera kweAsperger syndrome kune DSM kwakashandura nzira iyo vanhu vaifunga nezvevhisi.
Vanhu vane uhu hukuru hwebasa re autism vakanga vakachenjera, vanogona, uye vanowanzobudirira. Kunyange zvazvo vangave vakave nezvinetso zvakakura nenhau dzekunzwa uye kushamwaridzana kwevanhu, vaikwanisa (kunyanya dzimwe nguva) kuvhara, kukunda, kana kudzivisa matambudziko aya. Vanhu vazhinji vane Asperger syndrome vakaroorwa kana kuti vakawana shamwari, uye vazhinji vakanga vane vana.
Nokuti Asperger syndrome yakanga isipo kusvikira muna 1994, vashomanana vevanhu vakakurira vasati vasvika panguva iyoyo vakagamuchira chero chinhu chakadai se autist spectrum kuongororwa-zvishoma kusvikira vasvika vana pachavo.
Zvadaro, pane dzimwe nguva, pavanenge vachitsvakurudza vana vavo, vabereki vakaona kuti ivo, zvakare, vakaongororwa pamucheto wakakwirira we autism spectrum.
Munguva iyi, vana vakanga vachikura avo, ivo, vakagamuchira Asperger syndrome kuongororwa sevana. Ava vana vakanga vachikura ne autism spectrum kuongorora uye vakagamuchira kurapwa kuti vabatsire kugadzirisa matambudziko avo.
Kune vamwe vanhu, autism nematambudziko ayo akamira munzira yekurera vabereki. Kune vamwe vazhinji, zvisinei, hazvina kudaro. Uye, zvechokwadi, vanhu vazhinji vane autism vanongoda izvo vazhinji vavo vanowanzofarira: mhuri.
Muna 2013, Asperger syndrome sechikwata chekuongororwa chakabviswa kubva ku DSM . Nhasi, vanhu vane zviratidzo zvekushanda zvakadanwa kamwechete zvinonzi Asperger syndrome zvino vane "autism spectrum" kuongororwa. Izvi, zvechokwadi, zvaisava nechinonyanya kukosha kune vanhu 'chido chokuva (kana kuti kwete) mubereki.
Myths About Autistic Parents
Kune mhemberero dzakawanda dzakapoteredza autism . Iyi nhema dzinogona kuita kuti zvive zvakaoma kunzwisisa kuti munhu weviti anogona sei kuva mubereki akanaka. Nenzira yakanaka, nhema ndeye, nekududzira, asiri nhema! Pano pane zvishoma kusanzwisisana kwakadaro pamusoro pevhisiyumu:
- Vanhu vane autism havanzwi manzwiro akafanana . Kunyange zvazvo vanhu vane autism vangava nekusiyana kwakasiyana pane zvimwe zviitiko kana zvakaitika kune vamwe vezera ravo, ivo vanonyatsonzwa mufaro, kutsamwa, kuda kuziva, kukanganisa, kufara, rudo, uye mamwe manzwiro ose .
- Vanhu vane autism havagoni kuda. Sezvakataurwa pamusoro apa, izvi hazvisi zvachose.
- Vanhu vane autism havagoni kunzwira vamwe . Mune zvimwe zviitiko, zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kuvanhu vega autistic kuzviisa muzvichekwa zveumwe munhu anoda, anonzwa, kana kuti anopindura nenzira dzisiri kunze kwezvaanoziva. Asi izvi ndezvechokwadi kune vanhu vose: zvakaoma kuvanzwira tsitsi, somuenzaniso, nemwana anoda kuita zvinhu zvausingadi kana kuti asingadi zvinhu zvaunoda.
- Vanhu vane autism havagoni kutaura zvakanaka . Vanhu vane hutano hwemagetsi vanoshandisa mutauro wekutaura uye (kana kuti nani kupfuura) vezera vezera. Vanogona, zvisinei, vane dambudziko "nekukurukurirana kwevanhu," izvo zvinoreva kuti vangada kushanda zvakaoma kupfuura vazhinji kuti vaite pfungwa dzemutauro kana nzira dzisinganzwisisiki dzekutaurirana.
Kufungidzirwa Pamubereki Ne Autism
Jessica Benz weDalhousie muNew Brunswick, Canada, ndiye amai vevana vashanu. Akamugamuchira iye autism kuongororwa semugumisiro wekutsvaga mhinduro kumatambudziko evana vake. Heano zviratidzo zvake uye mazano pamusoro pemubereki semunhu mukuru pa autism spectrum.
Chii chakaita kuti iwe uwane wako autism chirwere? Iwe unokurudzira kutsvaga kuongororwa kana iwe uchifunga kuti UNOGONA kuongororwa here?
Kuongorora kwangu kwakasvika sekunge munhu mukuru shure kwekunge vaviri vevana vangu vanga vaongororwa uye takatanga kukurukura nhoroondo yemhuri pamwe chete nemumwe wevadzidzi vepfungwa takashanda navo. Apo ini ndakataura mamwe mazviitiko apo mwana achikwira nezvose zvandakaona muvana vangu, bhuru rhenje rakaenda. Ini ndakatsvaka kuongororwa nekuongorora kubva ikoko kana kungozvinzwisisa zviri nani somunhu, uye somubereki.
Ndinofunga kuti mamwe mashoko akawanda nguva dzose ari nani, kunyanya pamusoro pedu. Kana mumwe munhu achinzwa sokuti autism inogona kunge iri chikamu chekugadzira maitiro ehupenyu hwavo pachako, zvakakosha kubvunza pamusoro pazvo nekukumbira kuongororwa. Sezvatinoongorora mabhuku ekuchenesa mazano ekuchengetedza, zviri nani kuti tinzwisise izvo zvinoumba hupenyu hwedu uye pachedu, zviri nani isu tinogona kuva nechokwadi chokuti tiri kushandisa zvigadziro zvakanaka maererano nekuzvitarisira uye kubatana nevamwe vanhu.
Wakadzidza kuti iwe uri autistic inobata chisarudzo chako che (kune) vana here? uye kana zvakadaro, wakaita sei chisarudzo?
Zvechokwadi, kuziva kuti ini ndiri autistic kwakakanganisa zvisarudzo zvangu, asi nenguva yandakawana, takava nevana vatatu (isu iye zvino tine mashanu). Saka hazvina kutitadzisa kuva nevana vakawanda, zvinongoreva kuti tine kunzwisisa kwakanakisisa kwevana vatinazvo. Kuva neruzivo rwakanakisisa rwekunzwa kwandakaita dzimwe nguva, nei ndakafunga kuti zvimwe zvinhu zvakanyanya nyore kune vamwe vanhu kupfuura ivo zvaiva kwandiri, uye kunzwa sokuti ndakanga ndisiri kuita zvose zvakanaka zvakakwana, zvakandipa simba rekugadzirisa kuchinja kwakanaka mukati hupenyu hwangu kuva chivimbiso chinowedzera uye chinangwa.
Ndiri kuyeuka ndiine mhaka apo mukuru wangu akanga ari muduku kuti ndakatarisira zvikuru kurara. Ndakanzwa sokuti ndiyo ndiyo nguva yokutanga ndaigona kufema sezvo aizomuka mangwanani. Yakanga isiri iyo kuti ndakanga ndisingadi kuberekera vana, ndainakidzwa nayo zvikuru uye ndakada kuongorora nyika naye. Asi mhosva yandinonzwa nokuti ndaitarisira nguva yekurara uye kwemaawa mashomanana ndisingafaniri kunge ndiri 'pane' kundivhiringidza. Kuziva kuburikidza nekuzviziva kwangu kuti maawa maviri nemasikati nguva yakakodzera yekuzvitarisira kwakandibatsira kuti ndive nemubereki asina kuneta uye kusuruvara kwandakanga ndichinzwa kare.
Uyezve, ndakaona zvimwe zvinhu zvandaida kuti ndive nazvo panzvimbo yekufunga kuti ndinogona kubudirira semubereki. Ndakanga ndagara ndiri munhu akaremberedzwa zvakanaka maererano netsika, kuchenesa, kuronga, nekugadzirisa. Izvo zvakarambidzwa kudzokera kuhupenyu zvakaita kuti ndive nekunyanya kunetseka apo ndaida kuti zvinhu zviitike pane nguva, kana kuti pakanga pane chikonzero chisingafungirwi.
Inoshanduka, kuberekera mubereki kunongozara zvizere zvisingatarisirwi uye matanho asiri ako! Ndakasarudza kuedza nekushandisa zvinhu zvandaiwanzosigira vana vangu muupenyu hwangu, uye zvakandishamisa, zvinhu zvakava nyore. Ndakashandisa chiitiko chekutarisira imba, chiitiko chekutarisira zuva. Ndine chokwadi chokuti ndinyore purogiramu yezuva nezuva zuva rega (ine mavara anoonekwawo nevana vaduku) saka tinokwanisa kuona zvose zviri kuitika zuva roga rega uye kuziva kugadzirira mberi.
Kungoziva chete kuti ndakafanirwa kuzvipa mitsigiro imwecheteyo yandinopa vana vangu kwakaita kuti ndinzwe sokuti ini ndave ndichigadzirira zvangu zvese uye ndichiratidza vana vangu kuti vanogona kuita zvakafanana nevakuru uye kutarisira hupenyu hwavo pachavo. Saka vanhu vazhinji vanonzwa shoko rokuti autism uye vanofungidzira mumwe munhu anoda vamwe vanhu kuti vagadzire vatsigiro.
Zvakakosha kwandiri kuti vana vangu vaone kuti vanogona kutungamirira hupenyu hwavo uye vachitsigira mukati mehupenyu hwavo nekuda kwezvavanoda. Kufananidza kuti ini ndeimwe nzira ivo vanogona kuisa tsika izvo ivo vanowanzonzwa nezvese se "zvinodiwa." Isu tose tine zvidikanwi zvakananga, kunyange vanhu vane chirwere chepfungwa. Tine basa rekupa simba vana vedu kuti vaone uye vatsigire zvavanoda.
Zvino, nei tine vana vashanu? Ndiri kureva, ivo vanonzwika, vanopesana, vanopopotedzana, vanofambidzana, uye mumwe munhu anogara achitambudza mumwe munhu. Zvisinei, vanonzwisisanawo zvakadzama, vanotsigirana zvakakwana. Munyika umo kushamwaridzana uye kushamwaridzana kwevamwe vanhu zvakaoma, vana ava vari kukura vachidzidziswa mukudzikama uye kushanda pamwe nekubatana kuti vakagadzirirwa kuita nevana. Vachagara vaine rubatsiro rwemhuri muhupenyu hwavo vanovanzwisisa zvachose, kunyange kana vangave vasina kubvumirana nguva dzose. Izvi zvinokosha kwatiri.
Wakadzidza here kuti iwe uri autistic inoshandura nzira iyo iwe mubereki? Somuenzaniso, wakasarudza kukumbira rubatsiro rwakawanda, shandura nzira iyo iwe unopindura nayo 'maitiro' akaipa, nezvimwewo?
Zvakandiita kuti ndive nechinangwa, uyezve ndinoziva. Yakandipawo nzvimbo yekugamuchira kuti ini ndinewo mvumo yekuzadzisa zvandinoda kuti ndive nani kukwanisa kubereka vana vangu. Ndakadzidza kuziva kana ndapera simba ndisati ndasvika padanho rinotyisa, uye ndakadzidza kutora nguva yekudzorera zvakare.
Iniwo ndinofunga nezvehutano hwangu, uye kutambudzika kwandakaona kana ndisingagoni kurega kuchema pane chimwe chinhu chingave chakanga chisiri chiduku, kana pandakadzoka kumba ndichibva kuchikoro uye ndakanga ndiine hasha dzinotyisa pasina chikonzero. Ndinoyeuka kunyadziswa kwandainzwa semucheche pamusoro pezvinhu izvi, uye ndinoda kuva nechokwadi kuti vana vangu havambofungi izvozvo. Ndakanga ndine nhanho, uye ndakagamuchirwa mubereki akakodzera uye mhinduro kune izvozvi nenzira yechirwere, kuburikidza nevabereki vaindizonzwisisa zvikuru.
Ndakanga ndisati ndambopiwa chirango uye ndakanga ndisingambodi kushamwaridzana kuburikidza nematambudziko iwayo, kunyange zvazvo ndakanga ndisingambozivi zvino kuti kuora kwei. Asi ini ndichiri kuyeuka ndinonzwa kunyadziswa kwekusakwanisa kudzora manzwiro angu uye manzwiro nenzira iyo wese wese akaita seanogona. Ndakanga ndiri mudzidzi wemuenzaniso, nguva dzose kumusoro kwekirasi yangu, uye ndakagara mune kutya kune mumwe munhu achiziva kuti ndakachema nokuti ndaifanira kutaura nyasha kune shamwari iri muchitoro.
Ndinoedza kubatsira vana vangu kunzwisisa ivo pachavo. Ndinoda kuti vazive kuti ndinonzwisisa kuti nei chimwe chinhu chisingatarisirwi chingakanda zuva rese uye kuti handisi mhosva kana kuti ndinonzwa sokuti vanogona kukwanisa kurarama zviri nani. Dai ndanga ndichiziva kuti huro hwangu hwakanga husina kugadzirisa zvinhu nenzira iyo munhu wese akaita sei, ndinofunga kuti ndingadai ndakave nomutsa kwandiri. Somubereki, ndinoda kudzidzisa vana vangu kuva nemutsa kune ivo pachavo.
Ndeapi mazano ekurera vana matambudziko aunosangana nawo NECHI iwe uri autistic?
Ngatitangei nemazuva ekutamba. Izvo izvi zvakanyanya kushungurudzika kwandiri. Kutanga, ini ndine huni yevanhu vanouya munzvimbo yangu (Egad-kwete!) Kana kuti ndinofanira kutora vana vangu kune imwe nzvimbo yeimwe nzvimbo. Muzhinji, vamwe vanhu vanogona kunge vasina vana, asi hapana mumwe kunze kwevamwe vabereki vari kurera vana vane autism REALLY childproofs. Saka, ndakaramba ndakasvinura kuti ndive nechokwadi chokuti hapana chakavhuniwa apo ichiedza kuisa hurukuro duku uye hazvizivikanwe nguva yekurega kutaura. Mazuva ose ekutamba anoda nguva yose yemasikati ekuderera kwese tose, uye zvichida usiku hwema pizza hunoita kuti udzoke zvakare.
Ngatitungamirire kune zvinetso zvematambudziko . Ini ndiri mumwe munhu anotaura nezvekurota basa akanga ari munhu ane chivako chomoto. Hapana vanhu, hapana runyararo, hapana kuvhara, kunyarara uye nzvimbo yakazaruka. "Ko iwe haungashushi here?" vanhu vakabvunzwa. Ndakanga ndisinganzwisisi mubvunzo.
Zviri pachena, hupenyu muimba nevana vashanu huri kuratidzika zvakasiyana. Mafonifoni anowanikwa munzvimbo yedu. Makore mashomanana adarika ndakaneta nokudanidzira kune wese wose kuti 'Tora iyo pasi!' Ndakasiya uye ndakawana munhu wose ane headphones saka ini ndakakwanisa kuchengetedza imba yevhesi kurira kunononoka. Nguva yakanyarara haisi kutenderwa. Vazhinji vevana vakamira vakarara, asi vachiri kubvunzwa kuti vashandise nguva muimba yavo zuva rimwe nerimwe vachiverenga zvinyararire, vachitamba pahwendefa (oh, sei ndinoda teknolojia yekombiyuta!) Uye zviripo zviripo pasina kubvisa pamabhedha nemasvingo.
Pavanenge vari kuchikoro, izvi zvinongoshanda kuvana vaduku, asi pakupera kwevhiki uye munguva yezhizha iyi ndeyevanhu vose. Zvechokwadi, ndinovaudza kuti zvakakosha kudzidza kudzidza kuzvidzora nekudzorera ivo pachavo. Asi chaizvoizvo, ndiyo nzira yandinowana kubva kune imwe mugumo wezuva kusvikira kune imwe kunze kwekuti ndive mubereki akanyanyisa. Iko maminitsi makumi maviri nemashanu anondipa nguva yekuita mukombe wehafi inopisa, yeuka kufema uye kudzokera shure kune masikati emasangano uye kufara.
Ko autism inokubatsira iwe kuita basa riri nani somubereki wevana vane autism? Kana zvakadaro, sei?
Zvakanaka. Ndinofunga kuti chikamu chakaoma zvikuru chevabereki vane vana vane autism haisi kunzwisisa. Zviri nyore kutaura zvinhu zvose zvakanaka; Zviri nyore kutaura kuti tinoziva kuti havakwanise kudzora kuora . Asi kunyatsonzwisisa manzwiro iwayo, kuvaziva, kuziva kuti chii chinonzwa sokuti pfungwa yako iri kumhanya uye kutora manzwiro ako nemuviri pamwe chete nekuda kwekutasva-hazvigone kutsanangurira vanhu vasina kumbozviona.
Sezvo ndazviziva, zvakadaro, zvinondipa zindo munguva yavari kurarama. Izvo zvinondibvumira kusangana navo kwavari, pane kuvakumbira kuti vasangane neni hafu. Zvinondibvumira kuti ndive mutsigiri ane simba kwavari. Iko kunondibvumira kuti ndivaudze kuti, 'kunyange amai vanonzwa saizvozvo saizvozvo dzimwe nguva.'
Ndeipi dzimwe nzira dzokugadzirisa nadzo uye mazano awakataura kuti unoda kudarika?
Gamuchira nzvimbo yako yekunyaradza. Ikoko nokuti inoshanda. Kana iwe uchikwanisa kubva kubva kune imwe mugumo wezuva kusvika kune umwe neumwe munhu anodiwa uye achiremekedzwa, asangana nezvido zvezuva racho uye akachengetedza munhu wose akachengeteka, waita zvakakwana zuva racho. Kubereka hakusi makwikwi, haunokunda mubayiro wekuva Pinterest Mom. Kana mwana wako achizviratidza kuchikoro nemashira avo mukati mukati nokuti nzira yakarurama yekutenderera yaizotanga kurwa, kunzwa mwana wako ndiyo yakanakisisa yawaive nayo. Hongu, kunyange dai yaiva zuva rekufananidzira, uye iwe wakasvika apo sezvinonzi bhero rakarira, uchiri kupfeka pajama yako pants. Iwe unogona kuve nechinangwa chekugadzira mapepa chaiwo kumisangano yeEEP-asi inoratidzika kuisa toni yakarurama.
Wakambogovera wako autism chirwere chevana vako here? Kana zvakadaro, wakazviita sei?
Hongu, nokuti yave iri hurukuro inoramba iripo mumba medu, haisi huru inoratidza. Isu tinotaura pamusoro pehutano sechikamu chinokosha chepasi, uye pamusoro pevanhu vose vari munyika iyo uropi hunoita zvakasiyana. Ini ndinosangana nemasangano angu zvangu uye ndinokurudzira vana kuti vaite zvakafanana. Apo pavanondiona ndichitaura, 'Ndave ndiine izvozvo, ndiri kuenda kunoshamba kwehafu yeawa,' zviri nyore kwazvo kuti vandiudze kana vachida kuputsa nekuti chinhu chakanaka uye chinogamuchirika kwatiri mhuri.
Unoona here kuti autism yako inoita kuti zvive zvakaoma kuronga neurotypical zvinotarisirwa (pakati pevana vevabereki, vanachiremba, vadzidzisi, nezvimwewo)?
Zvinogona kuva, kunyanya kana ini ndichiratidza kuongorora kwangu. Takava nemumwe munhu achishanda nemudzimai wangu wemakore mashanu uyo ​​aishandisa mamwe maitiro asina kunaka uye anonyadzisa. Apo ndakataura zvandaida uye ndakazivisa kuongorora kwangu pachangu, iye akaoneka akachinjwa, ipapo mhedziso imwe neimwe yakapera, 'Unonzwisisa here?' sokunge ini ndakanga ndisingaiti uye ndakakwanisa.
Ndinozviwana ndiri kunyanya kutaura zvisingatauri dzimwe nguva. Vanhu vakawanda vandinoshanda navo vanoda kunzwa uye vane mutsa uye vanoremekedza. Zvisinei, ini ndine dzidzo uye ruzivo rwekutsvaga pane vamwe vanhu vakawanda, uye ndinoshamisika dzimwe nguva kana pfungwa dzangu dzakasimba uye kukurudzira kunotyisa kunoonekwa sekuve mubereki akaoma kunze kwekudaro kutsigira mazwi angu.
Ndinowanzosaita zvakanaka kana yava nguva yekurega kutaura, kurega kudzidzisa, kurega kutsanangura, uye ndinoenderera mberi kusvikira hurukuro ichienda. Dzimwe nguva, handifungi kuti zvinopfuura zvakanaka. Handizivi kuti ndaizova semutauri wemutauriri asi hazvisi zvezviitiko zvangu. Ndinoda kufunga kuti ndinenge ndichiri inzwi revana vangu vakakodzerwa, asi ndinofungidzira kuti ini ndingadai ndisina kuva nemisangano yakawanda yakakavadzana munzira kana ndakanga ndisina kurarama munguva iyoyo uye zvakaitika kwandiri.
Pane mishonga inoratidzika yevidism inokubatsira here kutarisana nekurera vana?
Handina kumbobvira ndawana imwe-yakakura-yakafanana-yehutano yose yekushandira chero ani zvake wedu. Sezvo pasina vanhu vaviri vane autism vane zvimwe zvakafanana zvinodiwa, hapana chirwere chichava nemigumisiro yakafanana kune vose.
Takashandisa nzira dzakawanda dzakatorwa kubva kuchipatara kuti tishandise mhuri yedu zvakanaka. Tinoshandisa zvirongwa zvekuona, miitiro, uye miitiro yakawanda pahutano hwehupenyu hwese. Tinoshandisa mutauro wekutaura , uye kunyange PECS sezvinodiwa kuti tibatsire kutaurirana. Tinoita yoga kunobatsira nehumwe pfungwa / muviri webasa, uye pachedu, chinhu chakanakisisa chandakawana ndicho basa rakaitwa nechiremba achishandisa CBT kudzidza kurega zvandinotarisira kune 'zvekare' zvisipo kune ani zvake, chero kupi zvako.
Kuberekera ndeye nyaya yekutungamira; dzimwe nguva unofanirwa kuchinja rwendo kuti usangane nemunhu wese. Iwe unongoda kuziva kuti ungazviita sei nenzira iyo hakuna munhu anonzwa sokuti haasi kunze.
Kubereka Kuburitswa Kubva kuna Baba Nehupenyu Hwose hweAvirist Kuziva
Christopher Scott Wyatt munhu mukuru ane autism (uye PhD) uyo anotaura nezvezvakaitika kwaari pa http://www.tameri.com/csw/autism/. Iye nemudzimai wake ndivo vanozvimirira (uye vanogona kutora) vabereki vevana vane zvinodiwa zvakakosha.
Chii chakaita kuti iwe uwane wako autism chirwere?
Pakutanga akaongororwa semafungiro emagariro ekuberekwa, chirwere chekuongorora chinogona kuchinja makore mashomanana ose. Yaiva "autism" yakaitwa muna 2006 kana zvakadaro apo DSM-IV-TR yakashandura zvinhu zvakare uye yakapararira. Sezvo mavara akaramba achichinja , ini handizivi kuti vaibatsira; kana chimwe chinhu chavanosarudza zvishoma pamusana pedzidzo yangu. Nhasi, tine chokwadi pamusoro pekuongororwa kwevana vedu. Inogona kubatsira, uye inogona kukuvadza.
Ko kudzidza kuti iwe uri autistic kunobata chisarudzo chako chekuva nevana here? Uye kana zvakadaro, wakaita sei chisarudzo?
Kwete saizvozvo. Takamirira kusvikira tive neimba uye taive nechivimbo chakachengeteka, izvo zvingangova zvakawanda pamusoro pehupenyu hwedu huzhinji. Ini nomudzimai wangu taida kupa imba yakanaka, yakagadzikana yevamwe vana, vangave vemuzvarirwo kana kuti vana-vanoita.
Wakadzidza here kuti iwe uri autistic inoshandura nzira iyo iwe mubereki?
Zvinogoneka kuti autism yangu inoita kuti ndive nemwoyo murefu, kana chete nokuti tinoziva kuti ndakadzidza sei dzidzo uye inotsigira. Ndine mwoyo murefu nezvinodiwa zvevana kuti vanyarare, varonge, uye pfungwa yekudzivirira. Ndinonzwisisa zvinhu zvinodikanwa kuti zvive zvakarongeka uye zvinotarisirwa. Vanoda izvozvo, sevana vakwegura, uye ivo vachazvida kana tikakwanisa kutora.
Ndeapi mazano ekurera vana matambudziko aunosangana nawo NECHI iwe uri autistic?
Isu hatina rubatsiro rwekunamatira, kunyanya kwete munzvimbo yega. Tine isu uye nevana, pamwe chete nemibatsiro inowanikwa muzvikoro. Saka, mupfungwa iyoyo, isu hatisi kufanana nevamwe vabereki nokuti hatina ukama hwekugarisana nevabereki vakawanda. Nhamba yemitambo haiitike nokuti vamwe vana vari pedyo vakwegura kupfuura vedu.
Ndeipi dzimwe nzira dzokugadzirisa nadzo uye nzira dzaunoda kudarika nadzo?
Nguva yakanyarara uye nzvimbo dzakanyarara kwatiri nevana. Nyuchi mabhegi ane mabhuku anovabatsira zvakawanda. Isuwo tine zvinhu zvinotaridzika: zvipembenene zvinokonzera, zvinonzi putty, spiky balls, nezvimwe zvinhu zvavanogona kutamba nazvo pavanomanikidzwa.
Unoona here kuti autism yako inoita kuti zvive zvakaoma kuronga neurotypical zvinotarisirwa (pakati pevana vevabereki, vanachiremba, vadzidzisi, nezvimwewo)?
Ndinokurumidza kushungurudzika nezvikoro, vashandi vomunharaunda, uye matare. Handinzwisisi kuti sei zvinodiwa zvevana hazvisi zvepamusoro. Mudzimai wangu anondiyeuchidza kuti nditange kufamba kana kuenda kune imwe nzvimbo ndakanyarara mushure mekubata ne 'system' isingashandisi vana.
Pane mishonga inoratidzika yevidism inokubatsira here kutarisana nekurera vana?
Handisi mufudzi wemishonga yakawanda yekurapa , zvichienderana nezvakaitika zvisingaiti. Nzira dzangu dzokubata nadzo ndezvenyanzvi: mimhanzi, kutora, kupora, kunyora, uye kupikisa. Takaona kuti kupisa uye kubata kubatsira vasikana, zvakare. Apo vasikana vanoda kunonoka uye kugadzirisa, mimhanzi (zvinoshamisa, Elvis - Love Me Tender) inoshanda.
Chinangwa chedu ndechekuyeuchidza vasikana kuti mavara asingatauri ivo kwatiri uye havafanire kuzvitsanangurira ivo pachavo.
> Sources:
> Deweerdt, Sarah. Mufaro nematambudziko ekuva mubereki ane autism. The Atlantic , May 18, 2017.
> Kubvunzurudzwa na CS Wyatt, muna July 2017
> Kubvunzurudzwa naJessica Benz, muna July 2017
> Kim, Cynthia. Amai: Autistic mubereki. Autism Women's Network, January 22, 2014.