Kubvunzurudza neChimwe Chiedza Chimwe Mamiriro Emweya DiMartile
Demo yeNew York-Demo DiMartile mudzidzisi uye muporesi. Ane nhoroondo yakare yakashanda mukupodza kwakakwana, kukura uye kutungamirira kutungamirirwa nekufungisisa kufunga kwehutano uye hutano mupfungwa nemuviri. Iye achangobva kutanga shanduro itsva, One Light One Spirit, uye imwe yezvokutanga zvekutengesa ndeyemaminitsi makumi matatu ekufungisisa akatungamirirwa nevakadzi vane chirwere chetachiona . Ndakanga ndine mukana wekudzokorora kufungisisa, uye kudzidza zvakawanda pamusoro pemafungiro eDemo uye zvinokurudzira mukusika kufungisisa.
Mary Shomon : Unogona here kugoverana chii chakafuridzirwa iwe kuti uite kutungamirirwa nekufungisisa nezvehutano hwehutano uye hukama hwakanaka?
Demo DiMartile : Pandakatanga kubata Chimwe Chiedza Chimwe Mweya, chinangwa changu ndechekuziva izvo zvinotitadzisa kuti tisave nesimba redu nekuziva zvatinokwanisa mune zvemweya. Ndakatanga kuisa nzira dzakasiyana-siyana dzekufungisisa dzaizobatsira mukurapa kuparadzaniswa kwekuziva pamwe nekubatanidza muviri, pfungwa uye mweya. Nguva yose iyi, kumashure kwepfungwa dzangu yaiva izwi rinopfuurira richiti "Kune Vakadzi Chete." Pandakazoteerera inzwi, yakadzosa kuyeuka kwamai vangu uye yakavhiringidza mukati mangu tsitsi dzangu huru nekuremekedza zvinodiwa zvevakadzi.
Amai vangu vaiva dangwe mumhuri yevana gumi vakapukunyuka. Akanga ari amai vanozvimiririra, vanobatana pamwe uye vanochengeta vana vomunun'una vake uyewo amai kune avo vatatu vana. Muzuva rake pakanga pasina chinhu chinonzi chirwere chehutachiona kunyange zvazvo aiva nezviratidzo zvose: kudzika mupfungwa, kusuruvara kunetseka, kunzwa kunetseka uye vazhinji manzwiro uye mahomoni anopesana.
Zvaishungurudza kuti kune vose vaakatakura kune umwe neumwe, haana kumbofunga kuti yakagadziriswa. Kazhinji akataura kuti aizvidemba sei iye aive, uye aigara mukuramba zvachose zvaidiwa mupfungwa, achitenda kuti vaisazombosangana. Aizodai achikandira zvipfeko zvaakauya paainge akaremerwa kana kuti mune dambudziko guru, uye paaisagona kubvunza zvaaida.
Akanga ari mudzidzisi wekudzidzisa kuti ndinzwisise manzwiro evanhukadzi. Ndakatanga kuona uye kunzwa zvinhu zveamai vangu zvakanyatsotaurira kuvakadzi vane zvirwere zvehutano, uye ini ndakanyatsonzwisisa kurwa kwavo.
Kubva pane imwe nzvimbo yekuona, zviratidzo zvinoratidza nzira yekukonzera kukonzera kusaenzana. I intuitively tinotenda kuti kunyadziswa ndiyo inokonzera mupfungwa inokonzera chirwere chetachiona uye kuti kunyadzisa kunoderedza zvose zvinoda (chinangwa) nezwi. Utachiona hutano huri pabhokisi rezwi, uye kune ukama hwakananga kune zvinodiwa zvepfungwa uye kutaura navo.
Saka ndiye mai vangu vaive vakakurudzirwa chaivo shure kweTroroid Meditation, uye kumukudza iye nevakadzi vakawanda vari kurwisana nemigumisiro yehutano hwehutachiona, ndakagadzira chigadziro chekuzvipa simba uye kuve zvakanaka-yakagadzirirwa zvakakwana vakadzi.
Mary Shomon: Sei iwe uchifunga kuti chikamu chemuviri-mupfungwa chikamu chinokosha chekutarisa kuzvitarisira?
Demo DiMartile: Nokuti inotadzisa pfungwa yedu kubva kune codependency uye kutya uye inosimudzira zvose kuzvivimba uye kuzvipa simba. Kubatana kwepfungwa yemuviri kunobatanidza kutenda iwe pachako izvo zvakakosha kuti uve mutungamiri hwehupenyu hwako norusununguko rukuru rwekusarudza. Kusarudza kushandiswa kwekuzvisarudzira.
Kana iwe ukapa simba rekuda kwako nemanzwiro (anotendwa zvitendero) mukati memuviri-pfungwa yako chikamu, iwe uchatanga kushandura pfungwa dzako nenzira dzausina kumbofungidzira. Uyewo kubvumirana kwemuviri-muviri kunokosha kuti uzvivimbe, uye kushandisa chivimbo ichi kukudza kutenda kwako iwe pachako.
Nhengo yemafungiro emuviri yakasimba, asi ini ndinogonawo kuwedzera mweya: pfungwa yemweya-mweya. Zvadaro zvakanyatsokwana sezvazvinoreva hutatu hwega. Uyu muenzaniso unosanganisira fusion yakakwana yekuziva kushanda pamwe pamwe nekuenderana kune humwe hutano hwepfungwa hwehutano hwemweya.
Mary Shomon : Dzimwe nguva, zvinonzwa sokuti kuora mwoyo kwakanyanya kwechirwere chetachiona -pfungwa yokuti chirwere chetachiona chinoratidza kuvharwa kwemutsipa chakra, uye nekuda kwekusakwanisa kutaura chokwadi chechokwadi - zvinoreva "kupomera mhosva. " Sezvo, kana mudzimai achangotaura zvakanyanya, hatingasimudzi maitiro ehutachiona. Maonero ako anosiyana sei neizvi?
Demo DiMartile: Izvi hazvirevi mhosva. Iyi inyaya yakadzama uye yakaoma uye inoda kunzwisisa kwemweya wemamiriro edu evanhu.
Huro yakra inobatana nemashoko uye izwi remweya wako. Iko pano kuti pfungwa uye vavariro zvinoshandurwa kuva mazwi kuitira kuti iwe ugone kutaurirana zvose pachako uye mumweya. Ichi chakra inomirira logos yako pachako kana kuti "kunzwisisa kwakarurama" kwako pachako semubatanidzwa pamwe noMusiki. Ichokwadi chenyu chinotsvaga kubva pakunzwisisa uku, uye chinotsanangura kuti ndiwe ani chaizvo kuburikidza nekuvimbika kweshoko rako uye kuda. Ichi chakra ndiko kushanduka kwomweya wekushanduka kunoenda mberi kwekuzivikanwa kwako kwevanhu uye unoenda kune kuyanana kwemweya. Utachiona gland ndeyomuviri wepakati wemutsipa chakra uyo ane simba kana simba mune zvakasikwa.
Sezvaunoziva, chirwere chetoriya chakaumbwa seguruvhiri, chiratidzo chezvose kushanduka uye kutadza. Saka kana pane kusawirirana kwetachiona , hazvirevi kuti munhu haakwanisi kutaura chokwadi chake kana kuti kungotaura chete, kunodzivirira kusawirirana kwekemikari. Zvinoreva kuti chirwere chetachiona chinofanira kupinda mukuenzanirana nemaonero ekunamata, uye kuti pane basa rinofanira kuitwa kuti richinje mafungiro epfungwa nekuda kwechiitiko chacho. Nokubvunza, "Izvi zvinorevei kundidzidzisa?" Kana kuti chii chinokosha chechirwere chetachiona muhupenyu hwangu? "Vakadzi vanogona kutanga kuchinja simba.
Iwe wakanzwa kutaura, Tiri vanhu vomweya vane ruzivo rwevanhu, kwete vanhu vari kurwisana kuti vave vekunamata. Uye isu hatifaniri kumboita kuti vaviri vacho vakavhenganiswa.
Mweya umwe neumwe iseri mumuviri wevanhu. Mweya umwe neumwe unowanikwa muhupenyu hwevanhu unotora chironda chepfungwa kuti upore mukati mawoga kuitira kuti karma inobatanidza neronda iyo inogona kuporeswa mumweya pamwe chete wevanhu. Izvi zvinozivikanwa seboka re Karma, umo mweya yakawanda ine ushingi uye ine tsitsi inoshanda mubvunzo mumwechete mukati mavo pachavo nokuda kwekumuka kwavo uye nekushanduka kwevanhu.
Irovhesi isungano yokutanga kuberekwa kana sarudzo yekushandura mweya wako kuitira kuti iwe ugone kukunda kurwisana nekumuka kumweya wako. Ronda racho harisi chirango, karma yakaipa kana nhamo. Icho chisarudzo chakanaka uye mudzidzisi wako. Inoudza hupenyu hwako chinangwa uye chikonzero chekuve pano.
Embrace it.
Apo iwe unobata chironda, chinova chipo uye icho chaiicho chichakuporesa iwe, kukusunungura iwe nekukuita iwe wakakwana . Ndizvo zvinorehwa newe iwe unhu hwemweya huri nehupenyu hwevanhu. Iwe wakapiwa simba remweya yekudzidza zvidzidzo zvemweya wako nekushanduka mberi kweivo. Kana iwe ukaona ronda racho sechinyaradzo kana kuurayiwa naro, iwe uri kushanda kunze kwekutenda kuti iwe uri munhu uri kurwisana kuti uve mumweya uye wakanamatira mukurwa. Kutenda ikoko hakubvumi kuti uve wega kana ani zvake.
Bvunza, "Chiiko chidzidzo chechirwere chetrosi?" , uye kutanga mweya kutsvaga. Kana pane chido chokugamuchira nemwoyo wose chiitiko sechikamu chekukura kwako pakunamata, ipapo kunogona kuchinja kunokosha.
Chirwere chetachiona chinowanikwa pakati pevakadzi uye mamiriyoni anotambura naro munyika yose. Kutonga kwemurume kwakadzvinyirira vakadzi kwemakore akawanda vachishandisa zvinonyadzisa kuti vanyengedze, vanotambudza, vatye, uye vanyarare vakadzi. Zvakawanda zvaive zvaitwa kuitira kuderedza kuda kwavo uye kuderedza inzwi ravo. Asi Chikwata chevakadzi chikave chinhu chikuru chekutendeuka pane izvi zvose.
Isu tiri iye zvino munguva yekumuka uye kusunungura kwepfungwa. Murume ari kuenderera mberi kwesimba ari kusvika kumagumo paZvino Equinox ya2012. Ichi ndicho chinhu chikuru chokuchinja muhupenyu hwedu hwevanhu, uye kuchinja kukuru mukuziva kwava kuda kuitika. Vakadzi vose vanobvuma simba ravo remweya uye vanoritaura vasingatyi. Kunyange iye zvino, vakadzi vakagadzirira kukwira munzvimbo dzakakwirira dzemasimba, kunyanya muhurumende kuti vasiye kugadzirisa kodzero dzevakadzi, uye vachave nekuenzana kwavo uye rusununguko rwekupedzisira rwekusarudza.
Vachange vakamira pamwe chete nevarume seanoenzana, vane tsoka yakaenzana, inzwi rakaenzana nekuremekedzana kwakaenzana. Haichazove "nyika yevanhu." Uye vakadzi vachakudzwa sevanounza hupenyu uye vanotarisira kuchengetedza hupenyu. Vakadzi vakatakura zvakanyanya, uye vane uchenjeri hwekuzvarwa uye rudo rwekudzorera rugare nerunyararo kunyika yedu.
Mary Shomon : Kana mukadzi achida kuisa mafungiro emuviri wepfungwa sekutungamirirwa nekufungisisa mukati mekuzvitarisira kwake kwose, ungakurudzira sei kutanga, nekufamba nazvo?
Demo DiMartile : Heino chiito chakasimba chokuratidza izvo zvinodiwa. Gara munzvimbo yakanyarara. Swedera pedyo nemeso. Tanga kufema mukati uye kunze - kunonoka kuzere kufema, kufema pfungwa yako. Zvadaro tora pfungwa yako kune mwoyo wako. Fema mumwoyo mako. Vhura uye uzviise mukati mukati. Simbisai: "Ini zvino ndinosarudza kuratidza mudzidzisi uyo anonyanya kuratidzira zvakanakisisa kwandiri kuti andibatsire mukushanduka kwangu mune zvekunamata." Tumira pfungwa iyoyo kuumba uye kuvimba iwe ucharatidza chido chemoyo wako. Ongai. Ita basa rako paunenge uchinzwa zvakanaka, nguva isati yatara.
Dzidza uye uzvidzire kuzvidzora uye kufungisisa. Izvo zvakafanana mune zvose zvese zvinokufambisa mberi kwepfungwa nekufungisisa pfungwa mupfungwa dzisinganzwisisiki apo zvese zvitendero uye mafungiro emagariro zvakachengetwa. Kuzvidzora kunogona kuva kwakabudirira pakugadzirisa mafungiro, nekuporesa mupfungwa, mupfungwa, uye mupfungwa. Icho chinhu chinopa simba romuviri kuti uve nazvo. Kufungisisa kwakakodzerwa zvakanyanya pakunamata. Izvo zvose zviri zviviri zvishandiso zvine simba zvekukura nekuve zvakanaka.
Mary Shomon : Unotarisira kuti munhu anoteerera anotora kubva muchikamu chekuita iwe nekufungisisa kwako kwetroroid?
Demo DiMartile : Ndinotarisira vateereri vachabata rugare, simba uye kuvepo kwepo simba rekuporesa mukati mavo uye kuziva kubva pane zvavanoziva kuti nekufamba kwenguva vanogona kuzvirapa uye vanozvigadzirisa kusaenzana kwehutachiona basa. Ndinovimba kuti kufungisisa kunozarura musuo mukadzi psyche kuti uwane simba revakadzi iro rinowedzera mweya kupfuura unyanzvi; kuti vakadzi vane rudo rwavo runoshamisa, vachikudziridza masimba uye uchenjeri hwavo hwekuzvarwa huchazobatsira kuvabatsira kudzikinura inzwi ravo rekunze nekunze sezvavanofamba vachifamba mumweya mumwe chete.
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