Elizabeth Kubler-Ross akafananidza kuti vanhu vanowanzofamba mumatanho anofanotaurwa apo vari kurarama nekudzivirirwa rufu . Izvi ndezvokuramba, kutsamwa, kutaurirana, kuora mwoyo, uye kugamuchirwa. Haasi munhu wose anoenda mumatanho ose, uye zvechokwadi haasi nguva dzose, asi vanhu vakawanda vanofa vachawana danho rehasha nekutsamwa.
Kutsamwa kunowanzoitika kune kurasikirwa kukuru.
Munhu anofa anongorasikirwa nezvinhu zvose nevose vanokosha kwaari. Anonzwa achirohwa nehosha yake. Kana iye achitenda mune simba rinopfuura, anogona kupa mhosva Mwari wake nekukonzera chirwere chake kana kusachirapa. Anogona kunyange kutsamwira mhuri yake neshamwari kuburikidza nekuenderera mberi kurarama hupenyu hwavo paanenge achirasika pachake. Anogona kunzwa kuti chiremba haasi kururamisa naye, vanamukoti vake havapinduri pane zvaanoda nokukurumidza, uye kuti nyika yatotanga kukanganwa iye.
Kusangana Nekutsamwa Kwemunhu
Hasha dzinongoratidzwa kune vamwe, saka zvinongova zvakasikwa kana kutsamwa kwomunhu wako kuchiendeswa kwauri. Kana iwe ukazviwana uchitarisana nomunhu ane hasha munhu akafa , heano mazano mashanu ekukubatsira iwe kuvabatsira.
- Chengetedza Vakwegura-Kukurukurirana Kwevanhu Vakuru: Zvinowanzova nyore kubata munhu anorwara semwana; zviri munyama yevanhu kutarisira uye kuparadza varwere. Paunowira mumuenzaniso uyu, chii chaimbova hukuru hwehukuru-munhu anova mumwe wevana vakuru. Kurapa munhu mukuru anenge afa sezvaunenge uchida mwana angangodzokorora uye kuwedzera kutsamwa munhu anenge afa ari kutonzwa. Iwe unogona kunge wakawira mumuenzaniso uyu usingatombozvizivi, uye iwe ungangove uchiona kutsamwa kwakatungamirirwa kwauri nekuita saizvozvo. Zvinoshungurudza uye zvinonyadzisa zvakakwana kuti urasire rusununguko rwako uye uhu husina kubatwa usina kutorwa semwana. Munhu anofa anowanzoda kuramba achizvitonga ivo pachavo, hupenyu hwavo, uye zvisarudzo zvavo kwenguva yakareba sezvazvinogona. Kupa simba munhu anenge afa kuti aite zvisarudzo zvake, kuratidza manzwiro avo, uye kuramba achizvimiririra sezvaanogona inzira inokosha yekuvabatsira kupfuurira kuburikidza nehasha dzavo.
- Usatora Uyu Munhu: Vanhu vane hasha vanowanzotarisa mumwe munhu kuti apomerwe mhosva. Apo kutsamwa kunotungamirirwa kwauri, zvakaoma kuti usazvitora iwe pachako uye unoshamisika, ndakaita chii chakaipa? Zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti munhu akafa haatsamwire iwe, asi pahutano uye mamiriro ake ezvinhu. Kunyange zvazvo kutsamwa kwake kungave kwakananga kune iwe, hazvisi nemhosva chero ipi zvayo yako.
- Ona Izvo Kubva Maonero Azvo: Kunyange zvazvo zvisingabviri kuziva zvakajeka kuti mumwe munhu ari kunzwa sei, kuedza kuona zvinhu kubva pakuona kwavo kunogona kukubatsira kunzwisisa kuti nei vachiita nenzira imwe. Funga nezvehupenyu hwomunhu akafa-wese waanoda, mabasa aanofarira, basa raakaita, kurota kwaanoita mune ramangwana-uye fungidzira kubatwa nezvose zvoupenyu hwako. Kutarisa pazviri kubva nenzira iyi, hazvishamisi kuti akatsamwa. Anomira kuti arasikirwe nemunhu wose nezvose zvakamboreva chero chinhu kwaari.
- Enda Mberi uye Ita Mad ... pazvirwere Zvayo: Kunzwisisa kuti kutsamwa kwomunhu ari kufa kunouya kubva kunobatsira unoziva kuti kutsamwa kwake kwakarurama. Kudzorera kutsamwa kune chirwere kunogona kubatsira munhu anofa kukunda manzwiro avo. Zvinogona kunge zvichibatsira kutsamwa nechinangwa chaicho chekufa. Pashure pezvose, iwe unomira kuti urasike chimwe chinhu zvakare. Enda mberi uye upeswe paurwere.
- Kunzwisisa Kururama Kwakarurama: Munhu anofa angave akanzwa kunyara, kunyara, kana kushungurudzika mushure mokunge achinetseka. Anogona kutaura chimwe chinhu, "Handigoni kutenda kuti ndangozvitaura izvozvo. Izvo hazvina kufanana neni zvachose. "Iwe ungave uchifunga chinhu chimwe chete. Kuziva uye kubvuma kuti kutsamwa uku kwakajairika uye kwakanaka kunogona kubatsira munhu anofa achimbundira nekufamba kuburikidza nekutsamwa kwemaitiro ekufa. Kutaura pamusoro pekururama kutsamwa pamwechete uye kugoverana mukuwanikwa kwekunzwa kurasikirwa kunogona kuderedza kutambura.
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