10 Maitiro Anoshanda Okukubatsira Iwe Kuita Nehutachiona Chechirwere

Mazano okukubatsira iwe kunyanya kushandisa nguva yawakasiya

Kuongororwa kwechirwere chinotapukira kunounza nekukurumidza kusununguka kwezvinhu zvako zvinokosha, pamwe nehupfumi hwezvinetso zvitsva uye zvinetso. Heano mabasa gumi anobatsira kukubatsira kubata nehosha isingagumi pamusoro pemibvunzo yakawanda inomuka mushure mekudzidza nguva yako yakasara ishoma.

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Ipa Simba Pakuziva

Tinotya zvikuru zvatinonzwisisa zvishomanana, saka uzvipe simba kuburikidza nekudzidza zvose zvaunokwanisa pamusoro pekuti chirwere chako chinokukanganisa iwe sei. Kumbira chiremba (s) kuti chii chinoitika mumuviri, mupfungwa uye / kana mupfungwa iwe unofanirwa kutarisira sezvo chirwere chako chinowedzera. Tsvaga paIndaneti kana kuti mune raibhurari yekugara kana mabhuku ezvitoro kuti uwane ruzivo rwakananga kurwere hwako - kunyanya kune zvikwereti zve / pamusoro pevaya vane humwe hutano-kuziva kuti vamwe vakagadzirisa sei.

Mukuwedzera, dzidza kuziva zviratidzo zvinowanzoguma-zve-hupenyu kuitira kuti iwe ugozvibata, kana zvichibvira, uye uvandudze hutano hwenguva yako yakasara.

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Zviregerere Pakuvamba

Hapana nzira yakarurama yekubata nayo chirwere chisingaperi, uye iwe uchaona huwandu hwakanyanya hwekunzwa mumavhiki kana mwedzi mberi, kubva pakutsamwa nekutsamwa kune kutya uye kuora mwoyo. Kunyange zvazvo manzwiro akadaro akajairika, kuti iwe uchaita sei uye unozvigadzirisa pane zuva ripi neripi richave rakasiyana newe. Mamwe mazuva achave ari nani pane mamwe, saka zviregerere iwe pachako kune nguva iyo iwe usingaiti chimwe chinhu sezvaunoda .

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Ita Zvaunotanga Kuita

Unozviziva iwe pachako, uye iwe chete unogona kugona zvinhu zvinokosha kwauri iwe panguva yawakasiya. Zvichienderana nehutano uye huwandu hwehutano hwako, uye mushure mokukurukurirana nachiremba (s) nevanodikanwa, zvibvunze kana iwe uchida kutevera maitiro ose ekurapa anowanikwa kuti uwedzere hupenyu hwako. Kana iwe ungada kuisa pfungwa dzako pakuvandudza kunaka kwenguva yako yakasara nekuipedza nayo nemhuri yako neshamwari? Pane imwe nzvimbo pakati? Kuita chisarudzo chakanaka pamusoro pekuti iwe unoshuva kuronga nzira yako yakasara kunogona kubatsira kuderedza manzwiro ekushaya simba uye kutya.

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Urongwa hwe "Rufu Rwakanaka"

Kune imwe nzvimbo, mabasa ose ari munyaya ino achakubatsira kuronga "rufu rwakanaka" - rimwe raunosarudza kufa iwe pachako uye sezvinonyatsobvira - asi iwe unofanirawo kusarudza kwaunoda kufa. Kunyange zvazvo hutano hwako uye huwandu hwehutano hwako, nzira dzekurapa uye zvinhu zvakakosha zvaunotarisa zvinokonzera chisarudzo chako, kune zvakawanda zvingasarudzwa iwe. Kunyange zvazvo vazhinji veAmerica vangada kufa pamba, vamwe vangasarudza chipatara, imba yekuyamwisa kana nzvimbo yekuchengetedza, iyo inogona kupa huwandu hukuru hwokurapa unyanzvi. Mushure mekufungisisa kuti chii chaunonyanya kufarira, kurukura nachiremba (s) nevanodikanwa kuti vaone kuti chinhu chakanaka.

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Taura pachena Pamusoro peEbhomba muChivanze

Nekufungisisa kwakanyanya uye zvakanyanya zvakanyanya pamusoro pako uye kurwara kwako, zvinogona kunge zviri nyore kukanganwa kuti vadiwa vako vachaonawo manzwiro akasiyana-siyana sezvavanoedza kurarama nemafungiro ekurasikirwa newe. Mhuri yako neshamwari zvinogonawo kunzwa kusanzwisisika kana kusava nechokwadi pamusoro pezvaunofanira kutaura kana maitiro ekuita zvakakupoteredza sezvavanonetseka nekutaura chinhu chisina kunaka kana kukuyeuchidza nezvehutano hwako.

Mukuwedzera, kutya pamusoro pekusigirwa kwemari yeramangwana, kuchengetwa kwevana kana zvimwe zvinhu zvinobatsira pasina mubvunzo zvichapfuura mupfungwa dzavo pane imwe nguva uye zvichida kunokonzera kunzwa kwakanyanya kwekutadza kwe "kuzvikudza" panguva yakadai. Nokudaro, zvakanyanya kwavari sezvaunozviita, gara pasi nevaya vanokuda uye kurukura nokutendeseka uye pachena kuti unonzwa sei , uye uvatendere kuti vataure pfungwa dzavo nemanzwiro, zvakare. Regai vazive kuti kukoshesa kwavo kwakakosha sei kwamuri uye kuti, nekuwanda kwaunogona, iwe uchavapo kuti uvatsigirewo.

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Simbisa yako PSN (Practical Support Network)

Basa rakapfuura rakabatsira kubatsira kutsigirwa kwepfungwa iwe iwe nemhuri yako kunoda mumazuva nemwedzi iri mberi, asi iwe unofanirwawo kufunga nezvekugadzira "rubatsiro runobatsira" nokukurumidza. Zvakare, zvichienderana nehupenyu, huwandu, uye hwemuviri, hwepfungwa uye / kana humwe humwe humwe humwe hunochinja huripo sezvo urwere hwako huri kufambira mberi, zvibvunze kana iwe uye kwenguva yakareba sei uchida kuramba uchishanda mabasa epamba , uchifunga kuti iwe unogona. Kana iwe wakanga uri mutoro wekucheka uswa, kuunganidza zvokudya, kuita yekushambidza, kubhadhara zvikwereti, kugadzirira kudya, nezvimwewo, funga kuti ndiani anogona kana kuti anofanirwa kutora mitoro iyo apo iwe usisakwanisi kana unongoda kuregera kwavari iwe unogona kupa nguva yako pane chimwe chinhu.

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Nzira iyo Paperwork

Tariro, watora nguva yekuumba / kuvandudza kuda kwako uye mapepa ebhurishu , asi, kana zvisingaiti, ita izvozvo izvo zvinokosha uye woita kuti mhuri yako izive kuti magwaro aya ndeapi. Iwe unofanirwa kufungawo kugadzira hurongwa hwehutano hwakagara huripo , hunoisa zvishuvo zvako zvakananga nezvehutano hwako hwehutano mune ramangwana.

Iyi nyanzvi yepamutemo inosungira inovhiringidza zvikamu zviviri. Yokutanga isimba rinogara remugadziri wehutano, umo iwe uchatumidza mumwe munhu (a proxy ) uyo anogona kuita zvisarudzo zvokurapa iwe kana iwe ukakundikana kuzviita. Chikamu chechipiri ndirwo hupenyu huripo, umo iwe unogona kubudisa marapirwo aunoda kana kuti usingadi pamagumo ehupenyu hwako.

Mukuwedzera, zvichienderana nenzvimbo yaunogara, unogona kukwanisa Kuramba Usingaregi kana Usingaiti Kuronga Kudzokorora . Aya magwaro, ayo iwe nachiremba wako munofanira kusayina, tsanangurira kuti haudi kubhadhara zvakakwana basa kana nguva yasvika.

Pakupedzisira, funga kupa vamwe kana nhengo dzako dzose kana mavara, kana zvichibvira, kuitira kupa vamwe chipo cheupenyu. Iwe unogona kusanganisira mirayiridzo yako mukuraira kwehutano hwehutano.

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Gadzira Mariro Yenyu kana Chirangaridzo

Mifungiro pamusoro pemariro emariro neyekuyeuchidza uye maitiro akasiyana-siyana ehuviri hwemuviri akashandura zvinoshamisa mumakore makumi maviri adarika uye marudzi ehutano aripo akawedzerwa zvikuru. Kana usati watoita zvakadaro, sevanhu vakawanda ikozvino, iwe unofanirwa kugadzirira marangariro ako kana chirangaridzo kuti uone kuti zvaunoda zvinosangana nekuita zvinhu nyore nyore kune vaunoda.

Kana iwe ukawana basa iri rakaoma kutarisana naro, iwe unofanira kunge uchiedza kutaura kune mumwe munhu mumhuri yako kuvabvumira kuziva rudzi rwekupedzisira rwekuda kwaungada (kuvigwa, kupisa , kupisa , uye zvimwewo) uye, kana zvichibvira, chii rudzi rwebasa raunosarudza (mhemberero dzemazuva ano muchechi kana kumusha wemariro, kupisa kwepachivande uye musangano wechirangaridzo gare gare, nezvimwewo).

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Taura Zvaunoda Kuti Uzive

Mumufirimu Grumpy Old Men , unhu hwaJack Lemmon hunotaura kuti mumwe munhu aiva "nhanho" nokuti akafira pakarepo mumusoro-pakurwisana nemotokari yekutakura. Zvichida, asi kufa kamwe kamwe kwemudiwa kunowanzokonzera kushungurudzika kunowanikwa nevanopukunyuka apo vanoyeuka zvinhu zvavanoda kuti vazvitaure asi havazombokwanisa kusvika ikozvino. Mumazuva namavhiki anotangira, ita pfungwa yekuudza shamwari neshamwari yako zvinhu zvaunoda kuti vazive - kuti unozvirumbidza navo kana kuti unovada - uye usashamiswa pavanenge vachida unopindura nemutsa.

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Kunakirwa zveipapo

Muhupenyu hwedu hwose, isu tinowanzotaurirwa kuti "titore zuva" kana kuti "ita zuva rose kuverenga." Asi, kupa hupenyu hwehupenyu sezvatinokurumidza kubva pane chimwe chinhu kuenda kune imwe, vashomanana vedu tinonzwisisa kuti nguva dzakanyanya, dzisingakanganwiki dzehupenyu hwedu hazviiti kungoitika kune dzimwe nguva zororo kana muzviitiko zvegala asi matipoteredza, zuva, kana tichizviona kana kwete.

Mumavhiki kana mwedzi iri mberi, kana iwe ukazviona uchinetseka nezvimwe zvezvinhu zvakapfuura zvakanyorwa apa, kana nezvimwe zvinhu zviri pane yako, ratidza kuti zvakakodzera kuti urege kungozvidzivirira uye uzvitore nguva. Tarisa zuva rovira. Tora ruoko rwomumwe wako kana rwemwana wako. Teerera kune shiri dziimba. Ita zvose zvaunoda kuita kuti uwane nguva shoma yomufaro. Iwe ungasava nechipo chenguva, asi iwe unogona chaizvo kushandisa nguva yaunayo .

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