Pros uye Cons for Being Another Child
Iwe nguva dzose wakaronga kuva nevana vanoverengeka. Ipapo mwana wako wokutanga akaonekwa kuti ane autism, uye iwe wakatamburira kuti uite maererano nezvose zvinosanganiswa. Upenyu neine autistic mwana wakaoma kupfuura iwe wawakatarisira, asi unouyawo nemufaro wayo. Iye zvino inguva yekubvunza mubvunzo uyu "Tinofanira kutorazve pamuviri here?"
Mubvunzo Wakakomba Waunofunga
Uyu mubvunzo ndewokuti, zvinoshanda chete kumhuri dzinonzwa dzakagadzikana nekudzivirira kuberekwa.
Asi kune mhuri idzi, mubvunzo wacho wakaoma zvikuru. Vanotsvakurudza vanobvumirana kuti vakaroorana vane mwana we autistic vane ngozi yakawanda yokuva nemwana wechipiri ane chirwere , asi kunyatsoona kwengozi kunogona kuitika. Izvi zvinoreva kuti iwe unoda kunzwa uchinetseka nekwanisi yekurera vana vazhinji vane hurema. Mukuwedzera, pavanokurukura nyaya iyi, vabereki vanofanira kuongorora manzwiro avo. Pano pane zvishoma zvezvinetso zvinogona kuitika kana iwe ukati "hongu" kumwana wechipiri:
- Iwe unganzwa uine mhosva ne "kushandura kwenguva pfupi" mwana wavo autistic nekutsvaga zvinodiwa nemwana wechipiri;
- Iwe unganzwa uchinetseka pamusoro pekugona kwavo kugadzirisa zvinodiwa zvemuviri wechipiri, kunyanya kana mwana iyeye ariwo autistic;
- Iwe unganzwa uchinetseka nezvekuti mari yako, simba, uye hupfumi hwako huchakwanika kuti utarisire mhuri yakakura inosanganisira imwe mwana akaremara;
- Iwe unganzwa uine tariro pamusoro pekugona kwekuva nemwana ane zviitiko zvichange zviri pedyo kune zvevamwe vana vakavapoteredza;
- Iwe unganzwa uine manzwiro akavhengana pamusoro pechikonzero chekuunza mwana munyika munoziva kuti iye, kana achiwanzofambira mberi, achazopedzisira atora pane rimwe basa rekuremara hama.
Pfungwa Yezvepfungwa
Robert Naseef, Ph.D., naCindy Ariel, Ph.D. kunyanya kushanda nevabereki vevana vane zvinodiwa zvakasiyana. Heano mazano avo kuvabereki pavanofunga kubata mwana wechipiri.
Iwe hausi woga, semunhu mumwechete kana semurume nemudzimai, pakatarisana nezvengozi dzezvinhu zvinoita seine chimiro chokutora. Ongororo ichangobva kuitika ikozvino inopupurira kuti dambudziko rekuva nemwana uyo achazopedzisira awanikwa kune autistic spectrum yakakwirira. Kunyange zvazvo ichi chisingafaniri kutora zvishoma, zvakadaro mikana yekuva nemwana chaiye yakawanda zvikuru. Izvi zvinogadza ichi chisarudzo chako pachako chichagadzirisa hupenyu hwako hwose uye hupenyu hwemhuri yako.
Chii chinoitika kana iwe uine vana vanopfuura imwe pamutambo? Chinhu chimwe ndechechokwadi: Vana ava vakasiyana nevamwe semunhu maererano nehutano hwavo uye hupenyu hwavo. Izvo zvakare zvakabatana kune mumwe nemumwe sehama.
Vamwe vabereki vanotarisana zvakanaka , uye vamwe vanovhiringidzwa kunze kwekugona kwangu kutsanangura mumashoko. Vamwe havana kuzvidemba uye rudo uye vanokoshesa mwana mumwe nomumwe sechinhu chakasiyana uye chakakosha munzvimbo yose. Vamwe vanoda kuti vaisazomboedza kuve nemumwe mwana ndokushamisika kuti chii chingave chiri. Kunewo vakaroorana vasingakwanisi kuita pfungwa dzavo uye vakaroorana vakaparadzana zvakanyanya panyaya iyi.
Kunewo vanhu vakawanda vane mwana chaiye uye vanonzwa "chechi chitsva."
Nezvose izvi mupfungwa, zvakakosha kutaura zvakasununguka uye zvakatendeseka pamusoro pezvikonzero zvako zvekuda mumwe mwana uye nezvekuti vachanzwa sei dai vaine mumwe mwana ane zvido zvakakosha. Uyezve, zvinokosha kuti tifunge kuti rudzi rwehupenyu hwakanga huchitarisira-rwemwana chaiye angave. Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechokuti usamanikidza mumwe wako nzira imwe kana imwe apo iwe uri kutendeseka zvechokwadi pamusoro pekuti iwe unofunga kuti unobata sei mwana wechipiri ane autism uye kuti iwe unogona kutarisana sei pasina kuedza kuva nemwana wechipiri.
Vamwe vanhu vanovhiringidzirana uye kana vakaramba vakaroora vanotanga kurarama hupenyu hwehupenyu hwakasiyana.
Imwe nzira yekuona hupenyu mumamiriro ako ezvinhu ndeyokuisa simba rako rose rekubereka mumwana waunazvo. Mufaro uye kugutsikana zvinogona kuita kuti ufare pamusana pehupenyu hwose kana iwe wakachengeteka nechisarudzo iwe pachako uye iwe newanano yako. Vamwe vanhu vanoenda nenzira yekugamuchirwa iyo iyo isiriwo isina ngozi. Saka une zvakawanda zvokufunga nezvazvo. Zvechokwadi, hapana chisarudzo chakanaka kana chakaipa.
Chinokosha ndechekuti unoenda sei. Kana iwe usingakwanisi kusvika pane chisarudzo iwe wose wakasununguka nazvo, iwe ungada kuongorora kutarisana nemudzidzisi wehutano hwepfungwa uyo ane ruzivo rubatsiro rwekubatsira vanhu kuronga mhando idzi dzematambudziko. Kuva nemwana ane hurema sezvakaita autism zvechokwadi inodzidzisa kuti zvishoma isu tiri mukutonga. Izvo zvatinoita zvine simba pamusoro pezvisarudzo zvatingaita patinodaro nefungwa yakajeka uye yakajeka.
Shoko kubva
Kana iwe uine mwana wechipiri ane chirwere chepurovhesi, iye achazopedzisira agarisana nematambudziko ekuzvarwa mukuva nehanzvadzi isingarambi nenzira yakafanana neyevamwe vana. Asi izvi hazvirevi chinhu chakaipa. Vana vazhinji vane vana vemunin'ina vane zvinodiwa zvakakosha vanokura nekukura uye kushivirira zvisingaonekwi sevanhu vakawanda. Kuve nekuva nehanzvadzi pamubhedha kunogona kuva chikomborero chikuru kupfuura kutukwa.
Chero zvaunosarudza iwe, zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti hauna basa kune ani kunze kwenyu uye nevana venyu. Hazvina ruzukuru, shamwari yako yepamusoro, kana hanzvadzi yako ine kodzero yekuita sarudzo kwauri.
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