Kubatana Kunogona Kubatsira Kuti Imba Yako Ive Yakasimba
Ko vosimusi mumhuri inonyatsotungamirira kurambana here? Tsvakurudzo dzinoverengeka dzakatarisa munyaya yacho uye, asingabatsiri, mumwe nomumwe akauya zvakanyatsopesana nezvakawanikwa.
Zvinotsvakurudzwa nevatsvakurudzi, asi, ndeyekuti autism ndeyekunakidza-kuderedza chirwere chevaya vanochengeta. Autism inogona kutungamirira kune zvisina kujairika uye zvakaoma-ku-kugadzirisa kuchinja, kusawirirana, uye kuvhiringidzika kwevabereki.
Kune vamwe vakaroorana, nzira yekugadzirisa nekugadzirisa nyaya idzi inotungamirira kusungo yakasimba. Kune vamwe, kushungurudzika kunogona kukonzera kuti imba iparadze uye inoputika.
Ndezvipi zvikonzero zvinokonzera kushungurudzika kunoshamisa? Unogona sei kuva umwe wevakaroorana avo vanowedzera kunetseka uye vakasimba semugumisiro?
Iwe Unopindura Kusiyana Nekutinetsa Pamusoro Pokukura Kwemwana Wako
Muzukuru wemwana wako, mudzidzisi, kana mubatsiri anokuudza kuti vanoona chimwe chinhu "kubva" pamusoro pomwana wako. Zvichida havatauri pavanenge vataurirwa ... zvichida mutambo wavo unenge uri woga woga ... zvichida kukura kwavo kwekutaura kwakanyanya kunonoka. Iwe unopindura sei?
Vamwe vakaroorana vanoita nenzira dzakasiyana nenzira dzakasiyana. Mumwe mubereki anozvidzivirira, kana achitaura kusiyana kwemwana kune simba-somuenzaniso: "Zvechokwadi haasi kukupindura iwe paunoshevedzera. Munguva iyi, mumwe mubereki anova nehanya, achitarisa tsika dzese dzisina kujairika kana kunonoka kukura .
Iyo hurukuro inoenda chimwe chinhu chakadai:
Mubereki A: Amai vakanga vakarurama. Johnny haaiti kana ndichitumidza zita rake, asi anoita seanonzwa zvakanaka ... Ndinoshamisika kana ndichifanira kumutora kuchiremba.
Mubereki B: Johnny akanaka. Ndiko amai vako vari kunyanya kufunga.
Mubereki A: Ndinofunga kuti amai vaiva nechinangwa; Ndacherechedza kuti inoratidzika seanopesana nehutano.
Mubereki B: Iwe unofadza kurega kunetseka woenda kunorara!
Kana Amai vainge vakarurama, izvi zvekukurukurirana zvichaenderera mberi. Vangangodaro vanova nguva refu uye vanopisa.
Pane imwe nguva, Parent A inotora mwana kuti aongororwe . Panguva iyoyo, kusawirirana kunogona kuoma. Mubereki B angaramba zvigumisiro zvekuongorora, kana kuzviona sechinhu chakakosha. Mumwe mubereki anganzwa achimanikidzwa apo mumwe wacho anonzwa asina hanya kana kuti akarambwa.
Nokufamba kwenguva, rudzi urwu rwekusawirirana runogona kukonzera kukanganisa kwakakura semibvunzo inomuka pamusoro pekuda kana kusashandisa mari pamishonga, mapoka akasiyana, kana mapurogiramu anotsigirwa. Inogonawo kuva dambudziko kana vabereki vachitaura kupesana kwavo pamberi pevamwe vana kana nhengo dzemhuri.
Mumwe chiremba anokwanisa, ane ruzivo achangosarudza mwana ane autism kana mwana iyeye ane nguva inononoka uye zvinetso zvinokonzera kukwanisa kwomwana kuita. Chinokosha, mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, ndechokuti Parent A ajekesere mubereki B kuti nei kuongororwa kunobatsira. Vabereki vangave vachida kuwana mamiriro akafanana: nzira yekupemberera kubwinya kwevana vavo pavanenge vachivimbisawo kuti mwana wavo anowana rubatsiro rwaanoda kushanda zvakanaka kumba, kuchikoro, uye munharaunda.
Iwe Unopindura Zvakasiyana Nezvinetso zve Autism
Vana vane autism vakasiyana.
Kune vamwe vabereki, kusiyana kwakadaro kunomirira chinetso chokusangana kana mukana wekukura nekudzidza. Kune vamwe vabereki, kusiyana kwakadaro kunoshamisa uye kunogumbura. Zviri nyore kunzwisisa kana maonero, sevana autistic:
- inogona kusashandisa mutauro unotaurwa.
- zvinogona kuita ruzha rukuru-kana kuti vangave vakanyarara.
- inogona kunge ine utsinye kana kuti inogona kuvhiringidza kana kunyangadza maitiro.
Zvinotora simba nekufungidzira kuti uone kuti ungaita sei neine autistic mwana, uye iyo nzira inogona kuva inopisa. Kune vamwe vanhu, zvinenge zvisingabviri kuti unzwe uchibudirira neine autistic mwana.
Zvichida zvakanyanya kuoma kune vamwe vanhu vakuru, kuva mubereki wemwana autistic zvinoreva kuva mutorwa kune kambani yemubereki.
Mwana wako haaiti kuti ave chikamu chemutambo wemitambo kana band. Tambai mazuva ibasa rakaoma. Miti yepato inenge isipo. Kuva mubereki we-autism kunogona kuita kuti unzwe uri woga, wakagumbuka, kana kunyadziswa.
Zviri kuedza kumubereki anoshanda zvakanaka ne mwana anonzi autistic kuti atore mutoro wose. Mushure mezvose, havafungi kuzviita-uye mumwe mubereki anganzwa akazorodzwa. Hapana kupesana. Dambudziko nenzira iyi ndeyokuti vabereki vanofanirwa kuva boka vanotanga kurarama hupenyu hwakasiyana. Pane imwe nguva, havana zvishoma.
Zvakakosha, kunyange apo mumwe mubereki anotora zvakawanda zvebasa rekugadzirira, kuti mumwe mubereki asapedza nguva nemwana wake. Zvinogona kunge zvisinganzwisisiki kana kutya pakutanga, asi pane zvakawanda zvingawanikwa. Hakusi chete mubereki achaziva nezvemwana wake uye zvaanoda, asi angatotanga kuwana unhu husingatarisirwi hwekusungwa. Uye kunyange kana iri "chiratidzo" chete, kutora nguva ye mwana we autistic kunogona kureva nyika kune mumwe wako.
Iwe Unopindura Kusiyana Nekusava nechokwadi Kunenge Wakakomberedza Autism
Kana mwana wako aine chirwere chakarurama chekurapa zvinenge zviri nyore kubvumirana pakuwana nekutevera mazano ekurapa akakanakisisa. Asi hapana chakananga pamusoro pevhisi. Pano pane zvishoma nzira iyo autism inoratidzika yakagadzirirwa kugadzirisa uye kuvhiringidza vabereki:
- Iyo autism spectrum inongova zviratidzo zvezviratidzo zvekuti, muma1980, yakawedzerwa kuva nehuwandu hwakawanda hwehurema. Asperger syndrome haina kuwedzerwa kune bhuku rekuongororwa kusvika muna 1994-uye rakanyangarikazve muna 2013. Ndiyo "autism spectrum" kunyange kunyatsozivikanwa here? Kune chokwadi nzvimbo yekusawirirana!
- Hapana munhu, kusanganisira chiremba wako, anogona kupa chirevo chakanaka kumwana wako. Chii chaachakwanisa kuita paanokura? Ndezvipi zvaanoda zvaanoda kana munhu mukuru? Hapana anoziva-kwete iwe, kwete mumwe wako, uye zvirokwazvo haasi vauzvara vako.
- Hapana munhu, kusanganisira mudzidzisi wemwana wako kana mushonga, anogona kukuudza kuti yakawanda yei kurapwa kana mishonga yakakwana (kana zvakanyanya) kumwana wako. Chiri chakaipisisa, pane dzakawanda dzakaipa uye / kana kuti zvisina kuvhiringidzika zviripo-uye zvimwe zvingangobatsira mwana wako. Iwe unogona kuedza rimwe remishonga kana makumi mashanu, uye iwe unogona kuwana mitsva yakaipa kana inotyisa.
- Hapana munhu anogona kunyatsoziva kana mwana wenyu achizoita zviri nani muchikoro chinongobatanidza kana chikoro che autism-chaiyo kana kumwe kusanganiswa kwezvose . Vadzidzisi vezvidzidzo vanogona kunge vane maonero, asi maonero acho kazhinji haana kururama. Nzira chete yekuziva nayo ndeyokuedza mwana wako uye kutarisa kuona zviri kuitika.
Zvose izvi kusava nechokwadi zvinosungirirwa kutungamirira kune kusiyana pakati pevabereki. Kunyange zvazvo mubereki mumwe achida kubatisisa matanho anochengetedza, mumwe anofarira kuongorora zvitsva zvitsva. Kunyange zvazvo mubereki mumwe achida kuti mwana wavo awedzerwe nevezera ravo, mumwe anonetseka pamusoro pekudheererwa uye anoda chinzvimbo chakanaka.
Kupindura kusanzwisisika kunowanzoguma nemunhu uye ruzivo. Mumwe mubereki, somuenzaniso, angave akararama kuburikidza nekudheererwa asi mumwe aine chiitiko chinotyisa chechikoro. Mumwe mubereki angave achifarira nzira yekudzidza nezvemaitiro akawanda ekurapa apo mumwe wacho anonzwa akaora mwoyo. Zvisarudzo pamusoro pezvikoro kana kuronga kwevanhu vakuru zvinoshushikana, sezvo zvichinyanya kukosha kumhuri yose-saka kusiyana kwakapoteredza nyaya idzi kunogona kutungamirira kuhukama hukuru hwehukama.
Kuwirirana kungave kwakakosha mumamiriro ezvinhu aya. Zvinenge zviripo iyo iyo kana mubereki asingadi kuisa njodzi kumwana wavo-uye izvi zvinoreva kuti mamwe marudzi e "biomedical" marapirwo ari kunze kwemiganhu. Mukuwedzera, vose vabereki vanogona kubvumirana kuti kusununguka, kwepamusoro-sarudzo zvingasarudzwa (zvakadai sesangano rechikoro uye inshuwarisi-inobhadharwa mishonga) inofanirwa kuedza. Kana izvi zvisarudzo zvisingashandisi, zvimwe zvingasarudzwa zviripo nguva dzose.
Mumwe Mubereki Anova Autist Specialist Kunyange Rimwe Rinozvidzivirira Nyaya
Kana mubereki mumwechete-kazhinji amai-ndivo vanonyanya kutarisira, mubereki uyo anowanzotanga semunhu anodzidza nezve autism kutanga. Ndiye iye anotaura nevadzidzisi nezve "nyaya" pachikoro. Ndiye iye anosangana nevanokura vana vana, vanoita kuongorora kusarudzwa, vanoenda kuongororwa, uye vanonzwa nezvezvigumisiro.
Nemhaka yokuti vanaamai ndivo vanonyanyobatanidzwa kare, vanowanzova vanotsvaga vatsvakurudzi uye vakatsigira. Vanodzidza nezvemutemo wepamutemo wezvedzidzo, nzira dzokurapa , inshuwarhu yehutano , mapoka ekutsigira , mapurogiramu anodiwa, mapoka akasiyana , uye makirasi ekugadzirira.
Amai saka vanova vavanoteere vateereri pamushambadzi wezvokutengeserana, zvinongororwa, zvigadzirwa, mapurogiramu, uye mapoka. Amai ndivo vanofambisa uye vanogadzirisa vanobhadhara mari, uye kazhinji vanoita mamama vanotora makambani uye vasina mari, vachivamanikidza kupa vhizimisi-zvigadzirwa zvemashoko, zviitiko, uye mapurogiramu. Apo zviitiko nemapurogiramu anoitika, vanaamai ndivo vanowanzotora vana vavo.
Zvose izvi zvinoita kuti zvive zvakaoma zvikuru kuvabereki (kana vashandi vasiri ivo vanonyanya kutarisira) kuti vapinde mukati uye vatore mutoro wakaenzana nevana vavo vevidistic. Haasi iye oga uyo ane hanya nebasa uye ane simba, asi zvipo zvishomanana zvakashamwaridzana nemadzitateguru kana kuti vasiri vadzidzisi vekutanga sezvavanofanira kuva. Chigumisiro ndechekuti uyo asiri wekutanga anotarisira mhepo anove ari kunze kune autism. Anogona kutora mutoro wekugara achiwedzera vana vehama kana mabasa epamba, asi achisingazivi zvachose zvaanenge achida nemumwe wake uye autistic mwana.
Mhinduro yakananga yedambudziko iri ndeyokuiputira muHut. Sezvo zvichibvira, vatarisiri vanofanirwa kugoverana mutoro nemasimba. Panzvimbo yekuparadzanisa uye kukunda, vakaroorana vanofanira kushanda zvakaoma kugoverana uye kubatana.
Iwe Unofunga Zvakasiyana Nezvokuda Kwenguva Yakadini, Mari, uye Simba zvinofanira Kuiswa Pfungwa paAustism
Iyi inyaya huru-nokuti maonero ako panyaya iyi ichasvika pamusoro pezvisarudzo zvose zvaunoita sevakaroorana. Kana iwe usingabvumirani pane imwe nheyo yepamusoro, iwe unogona, zvechokwadi, unowana kuti hausi hupenyu hwevamwe vanobatana. Heino chikonzero nei:
Nguva inokosha. Hazvirevi kutarisa kwemafungiro ekuona kuti autism inogona kuzadzisa zvizere nguva yemubereki. Tanga nenguva yakakodzera yeIEP (dzidzo yepamusoro) misangano uye kutarisira vadzidzisi uye vanachiremba muchikoro chechikoro. Wedzera nguva inodiwa pakugadzirira, kuenda kune, nekuenda kune vanachiremba kushanyira uye vanachiremba. Izvi hazvisi zvisarudzo, uye hachisi kuseka kunetseka kuedza kutsvaga mazino anovhengetedza mazino mukati mako.
Iye zvino chimbofunga kuti chii chingaitika kana mumwe mubereki asarudza kutenderera kuIndisitiri kutsvakurudza mune zvekuita nguva yakazara. Dzorera mumapoka ekutsigira autism, komiti inokosha yechirongwa chechikoro, misangano ye autism uye magungano, zvidzidzo zvine chokuita ne autism-zvikwereti uye zvikwereti zvemari, uye mapurogiramu emitambo anonyanya kuda, mavhidhiyo, mabhuku ... Zviri nyore kuona kuti autism ingakurumidza sei kushandisa nguva yose inowanikwa.
Asi imba yakanaka kana kubatana inotora nguva yakatsaurirwa uye hurukuro. Saka kuita ukama nevamwe vana. Kana mumwe munhu anotaura (uye zvinoreva) kuti havana nguva yekuisa muwavo wavo kana vamwe vana, ukama hunogona kunge huri mumatambudziko.
Mari inogona kuva pfuti. Mari haimbofi yakakosha. Uye kana zvasvika kune autism, hapana zvakakwana kumucheto kuti mari yakawanda vabereki vangashandisa sei. Ndiko nokuti hapana chirwere chisingazivikanwi chevhisi, uye (kakawanda) hapana nzira yekuziva kana chirwere, chirongwa, kana kuti kuiswa kwekudzidzisa zvingangobatsira. Nokudaro, hazvisi zvisizvo kuti vabereki vasabvumirana nezvekushandisa mari yakawanda sei, panei, kwenguva yakareba sei, pamatambudziko emhuri yezvino kana mune ramangwana.
Ndinofanira kurega basa rangu kuti ndigone kurapwa kwema- autism here? Tinofanira kutengesa imba kuti tibhadhara chikoro che autism-chaiyo yega? Tinoshandisa mari yedu yekurega basa pane mushonga mutsva here? Shandisai imwe yemari yekoroji yemari yekubhadhara musasa wekurapa ? Hapana nzira yekuti vaviri vari kushandisa mari uye kwete kushandisa mari panguva imwe chete.
Simba inotangira. Vabereki vakawanda vanowana autism inopedza. Nebasa rinotora kuti vana vavo vauye uye vakapfekedzwa kunetseka kwekutarisira chikoro chevana vavo, kurapwa, vanachiremba, uye mapurogiramu chaiwo, hapana chakasara kumagumo ezuva. Kana izvi zvikaitika, kubatana pamwe nemichato zvinogona kusunungura.
The Bottom Line
Nezvo zviri nyore kusava nehanya kana kuti kukanganisa maonero akasiyana-siyana sezvavanenge vachikura, kusiyana kwakadaro kunogona kuve kwakakonzera zvinetso zvakakomba kumuchato kana kubatana. Chinokosha chekudzivirira matambudziko akadaro ndekukurukurirana uye-zvichida pane imwe nzvimbo-kubatana.
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