Mazano ekubata neHanotarisirwa Kurasika Kweumwe Waunoda
Kunyange zvazvo kamwe-kamwe, rufu rusingatarisirwi rwemudiwa runogona kubvisa ruzivo rwekutambudzika uye kuchema, nhengo yemhuri kana shamwari iyo inoparadzana kubva kune vapenyu mazuva, vhiki, mwedzi kana kunyange yakareba zvinogona kuratidzira kushungurudzika kune vakapukunyuka nekuda kwekutambudzika kushungurudzika - kusuruvara kwakanzwa nguva isati yambofa.
Mazano Okukunda Nekutarisira Kushungurudzika
Heano maitiro mashomanana ematambudziko aungasangana nawo apo uchiedza kutsungirira rufu runouya rwemudiwa wako, uye mazano ekukubatsira kuti ugobata navo.
Kunzwa Wakaneta
Pasinei nokuti uri kushanda semutarisiri kana kwete, uchiziva kuti nguva yako yaunoda ishoma inotora marwadzo pamusoro pesimba rako remuviri uye remanzwiro. Vanhu vanogona kurarama zvakanaka kuburikidza ne "dambudziko rekutambudzika" kwenguva pfupi.
Kunyange zvazvo nguva iyo yakareba ichasiyana zvichienderana nemunhu uye mamiriro acho ezvinhu, kana chikamu chacho chasvika, pfungwa nemafungiro zvichatanga kuvhara sekuzvidzivirira kuchengetedza. Izvi zvinogona kuzviratidza nenzira dzakawanda, kusanganisira:
- Chimwe chido chakakura chokurara
- Kusina kwekufungidzira
- Anonzwa "kupera" kana kuti simba
Zvakakosha kunzwisisa kuti manzwiro aya akaenzana zvachose uye haareve kuti iwe uri kutonhora kana kusanzwisisa. Pakupedzisira, muviri wako nepfungwa zvichadzoka, uye iwe uchanzwa uine zvakare - kusvikira chimwe chinhu chichikonzera mamiriro ekusimudzira manzwiro. Iwe unofanirwa kutarisira kuti uwane mafungiro akadai uye kuona nguva iyo iwe unopfiga sezvinodiwa uye utano.
Izvo zvaiti, ita kuti iwe uwanewo kukwana kwakakwana, kudya zvakanaka, kupedza nguva pamwe nemamwe nhengo dzemhuri kana shamwari, uye unogona kuziva zviratidzo zvekuchengeta muchengeti .
Kunzwa Mutauro-Wakabatanidzwa
Rufu rune nyaya yakaoma kuvanhu vazhinji kutaura pamusoro, uye kunyanya naizvozvo patinofanira kupupurira kufa kwenguva refu kwemudiwa.
Nemhaka yokuti tinonzwa tisingafari, tinowanzotanga kufunga mumusoro medu pamusoro pezvinodiwa nemudiwa wedu kana kuti asingadi kutaura pamusoro pekufa kwavo kunosvika, sekuti, "Kana ndichitaura kuti ndichamusiya zvakadini, zvichaita kuti kunzwa zvakanyanya, "kana kuti" Handingatauri kusvika kumagumo saka iye neni tinogona kuwana mufaro munguva yakasara. "
Mambure ekubvunzurudzwa kwakadaro mukati mekunge kazhinji kusingatauri , izvo zvinogona kuita kuti munhu anenge afa achinzwe ari oga, asina hanya kana ari oga.
Sezvo zvakaoma sezvazvinogona kunzwa iye zvino iye zvino, kutaurirana pachena uye kwakananga ndiyo nzira yakanakisisa yekukurukura nemunhu waunoda kufa . Regai iye azive kuti iwe unoda kutaura pamusoro pekuti iwe unonzwa sei, uyewo zvaunogona kupa panguva yakasara maererano neshoko nekunyaradza.
Kana imwe nguva kutaurirana kwakatendeka kunotanga, iwe ungaona kuti kutya kwako pamusoro pokukurukurirana uku kwakazara.
Kunzwa Uine Mhosva
Apo mumwe munhu watinoda anoonekwa ane chirwere chisingaperi , zviri nyore kuisa pfungwa dzedu dzose uye simba kumurwere kusvika pedo nekuregererwa kwezvatinoda. Dambudziko rinokonzerwa nokutarisira mudiwa anofa - kunyanya kune avo vanopa huwandu hwekutarisira - kunogona kutungamirira kune vanotarisira kushungurudzika sezvo muviri, mupfungwa uye kunyange zvinetso zvemari zvinotora mararamiro avo.
Kunyange zvazvo zvingaratidzika zvisingafungidziki, kushungurudzika mupfungwa kunogona kutungamirira kumanzwiro ekutsamwa, kutsamwa kana kuora mwoyo kune murwere anofa - uye manzwiro iwayo anowanzokonzera pfungwa huru yekutadza. Kana isina kusiyiwa, manzwiro akadaro anogona kukonzera zvakanyanya kushungurudzika kunoita mumwe mushure mokunge murwere afa, achikuisa pangozi yekuora mwoyo, pfungwa dzekuzviuraya kana kushungurudzika mupfungwa kunetseka.
Kana iwe ukaratidza zviratidzo zvekuchengeta dambudziko , iwe unofanira kutaura pakarepo nemhuri yako kana shamwari uchiti, "Ndinoda rubatsiro." Zvakanaka, mumwe munhu anogona kutora imwe yemutoro wawakagadzirisa, kunyange kwechinguva, kuitira kuti akupe kuputsa uye kuderedza zvimwe zvekunetseka kwako.
Kana izvozvo zvisingazogadziriswa, funga nezvemhando yepamusoro yekufema , zvakadai sedare rekuchengetedza zuva rekare kana kushandira muchengeti wemusha-mumba, kuitira kuti uzvipe purogiramu yaunoda.
Kunyange zvazvo zvingaratidzika zvakaoma kuzvikumanikidza kurega kuenda kwechinguva, iwe uchadzoka zvakare kuzorora uye kushingaira uye kupa hutarisiro huri nani kumunhu wako waunoda kufa.
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