Kusiyana pakati Pechimwe Chisinganzwisisiki uye Chinorwadza Chakaoma
Kunyange zvazvo kushungurudzika kwakakwana uye kugadzirisa kugadzirisa zviitiko zvinorwadza, vamwe vanhu vanoona zvakaoma kuenderera mberi nekudzoka hupenyu hwavo huri pachena pasinei nekufamba kwenguva. Ichi chinyorwa chinotsanangura kusiyana pakati pekushungurudzika kwemazuva ose uye kwakaoma mushure mekufa kwemunhu waunoda, izvo zvinowanzoitika zviratidzo kana humwe hwemunhu mumwe nomumwe, uye mararamiro ekubata nemarwadzo akaoma.
Chii Chinoshungurudza?
Kushungurudzika isimba rine simba, rinogadziriswa uye rinowanzosagadziriswa iro vanhu vane ruzivo ruchitevera chiitiko chaicho chinorwadza kana chinoshungurudza . Kunyange zvazvo inowanzobatanidzwa nerufu rwomudiwa, kuberekwa kana kupererwa, zvimwe zviitiko zvakawanda zvinogona kukonzera kushungurudzika kune zvidimbu zvakasiyana, zvakadai se:
- • Kurasikirwa nebasa
- • Kuchinja kukuru mune mararamiro kana mamiriro emari
- • Kupedza ushamwari, hukama hwepedyo kana kuroorana
- • Kurwara kwakakomba kana zvirwere, pasinei nokuti uri wega kana kuti unobata munhu waunoda
- • Kurasikirwa nehupenyu hwako kana kuzvimirira
- • Kuba kana kubhakwa kunopesana nekunzwa kwako kwekuchengeteka / kuchengeteka
- • Njodzi yemotokari kana chimwe chinhu chinokosha "pedyo-rufu" chiitiko
Zvakakosha kunzwisisa kuti kushungurudzika hakusi chinhu chimwe chete; icho chiitiko kana humwe huri-humwe hunozviratidza huri mumuviri, mupfungwa, mupfungwa uye / kana mumweya kutevera chiitiko chinorwadza kana chinotambudza.
Uyezve, seminwe yedu, mumwe nomumwe wedu akasiyana uye kuti tinoshungurudzika sei, uye kwenguva yakareba sei isu tinoshungurudzika, zvinogona kusiyana zvakasiyana kubva kune mumwe munhu kune mumwe , zvichida kutevera kurasika kwakadaro, sekufa kwemubereki, mudzimai / shamwari, mwana, pfu, nezvimwe.
Izvo zvakati, kunyange zvazvo munhu wose ane shungu, kune musiyano pakati pezvisizvo, zvisiri nyore kana kuti zviri nyore kushungurudza uye kusagadzikana, kwakaoma kana kuwedzererwa kushungurudzika.
Chii Chinonzi Kusuruvara Kunowanzoitika?
Kushungurudzika nenzira yakakwana, yakakosha uye inowanzo vanhu vanoita nayo kune chimwe chiitiko chinorwadza kana chinoshungurudza. Kunyange zvazvo munhu wese anonzwa kushungurudzika nenzira yavo, vazhinji vanopukunyuka vanowanzoona zvimwe / zvose zvezviitiko zvinotevera kwenguva pfupi apo inopindura kurasikirwa mumazuva, vhiki kana mwedzi mushure mekufa kwemudiwa:
- • Misodzi, kuchema kana kuchema
- • Kurara kunofanirwa kuchinja, zvakadai sekutambudzika kunokotsira kana kuti kuduku / kunyanya kurara
- • Kushaya simba kwehuwandu
- • Kunzwa kusanzwisisika kana kusafarira mabasa ezuva anodiwa kana hupenyu huripo
- • Kuchinja kwechido, zvakadai sekusanzwa sekudya kana kudya zvakanyanya, kunyanya kudya zvokudya zvisina kuchena
- • Kubvisa kubva pamagariro ehupenyu / hukama hwehukama uye hukama
- • Kuoma kuisa pfungwa kana kutarisa pane basa, pasinei nebasa, pachedu, chido chekupemberera, nezvimwewo.
- • Kubvunza zvitendero zvekunamata kana zvechitendero, basa / basa rokusarudza kana zvinangwa zveupenyu
- • Manzwiro ekutsamwa, kushaya mhosva, kusurukirwa, kushushikana, kusagadzikana, kusuruvara, nezvimwe-asi asi pane dzimwe nguva uine nguva dzomufaro / mufaro
Sezvambotaurwa pamusoro apa, munhu wese anoshungurudza kurasikirwa nekuda kwekufa munzira yake yakasiyana, uye hapana nguva yekuchema. Zvisinei, zvizhinji zvinoshungurudza zvinowanikwa zvimwe / zvese izvi zvinoshandiswa zvakanyanya zvikuru mumazuva mashoma / mavhiki mashure mushure mekurasikirwa asi zvishoma nezvishoma kudzokera kune "zvekare" mumavhiki kana mwedzi pashure.
Iwe haungakanganwi zvachose wako waunoda sekuti haana kumbovapo, asi nekufamba kwenguva, uchadzidza kuti ungagadzirisa sei kusavapo kwake uye kuora pamwoyo wako nemweya.
Chii Chinonzi Kushungurudzika Kwakakomba?
Sezvakataurwa pamusoro apa, kushungurudzika "kwemazuva ose" kunoenderana nekufa kwemunhu waunoda kunowanzokonzera vanochema kwenguva pfupi, uye vazhinji vanopukunyuka zvishoma nezvishoma vanonzwa maitiro ekushungurudzika anokanganisa nekufamba kwenguva uye vanogona kutanga kutangazve mararamiro avo emagariro nemabasa. Vamwe vanhu, zvisinei, vanogona kuve nenhamo yakaoma iyo maitiro anowanzoitwa kurufu rwemudiwa haafaniri kupera nguva uye anogona kuvhiringidza kana kuvadzivisa kutungamirira upenyu hwavo huripo .
Dambudziko rakaoma rinogona kutaurwa nemamwe mazwi , akadai se:
- • kushungurudzika kusina kunaka
- • kushungurudzika kusingaperi
- • kuoma kushungurudza chirwere
- • kunyanyisa kurwadziwa
- • kushungurudzika
- • kuramba uchioma zvakanyanya kufirwa nechirwere
Pasinei nezwi, izwi rekushungurudzika rakaoma rinogona kusanganisira (kuwedzera kune chero zviratidzo zvinoratidzwa pamusoro):
- • Hasha, kutsamwa kana zvikamu zvehasha
- • Kusakwanisa kutarisa pane chimwe chinhu kunze kwekufa kwemudiwa
- • Kuisa pfungwa pazviyeuchidzo zvevakafa kana kunyanya kudzivisa zviyeuchidzo zvakadaro
- • Kunyanya kurwadziwa, kurwadziwa, kusungwa, kushungurudzika, kusava netariro, kusakosha, kuzvidzora, kuzvidzora kana kutsvaka kuvepo kwevakafa
- • Zvinetso kugamuchira chokwadi chekufa
- • Maitiro ekuzvikuvadza, zvakadai sekushandisa doro kana kushandisa zvinodhaka
- • Kuzviuraya pfungwa kana zviito ( Kana uri kuona kuzviuraya, shandisa National Suicide Prevention Lifeline pa800-273-8255 kutaura nenyanzvi wezano !)
Sezvambotaurwa, munhu wose anonzwa kushungurudzika akasiyana uye hapana huwandu hwehuwandu hwenguva inotsanangura apo kusuruvara kwakasununguka kunowedzera kushungurudzika . Vamwe vanoisa chikamu chemwedzi inenge mitanhatu mushure mekufa, asi zvakanakira kuvhiringidzika kuwana gore rokutanga mushure mekurasikirwa kukuru kwakaoma sevanopukunyuka vanoona mazororo, mazuva ekuberekwa, mazuva ekupemberera uye mamwe mazuva anokosha emazuva / zviitiko zvekutanga kwekutanga pasina vadiwa vavo.
Kana iwe uchiratidza zvimwe zvehutano hwakaoma zvakanyanya pamusoro, uchiri kunzwa "wakabatanidzwa" mukutambudzika kwako uye / kana kuti kupindura kwako kusuruvara kunoramba kwakangofanana kana kwakasimbisa pasinei nekufamba kwemwedzi inoverengeka kana kupfuura, ipapo ungangokurukura kutsvaka rubatsiro kubva kune nyanzvi yehutano hwepfungwa.
Iwe unofanirwawo kufunga nezvekubatana neboka rekusiyiwa rutsigiro munharaunda yako , kunyanya kana mumwe aripo kune vanhu vakawana rudzi rwakadaro rwekurasikirwa (mumwe mukadzi, shamwari, mwana, etc.) Kushungurudzika kunowanzokonzera manzwiro ekuzvimirira asi kukurukura nezvemamiriro ako nevamwe kuchema rufu kunogona kukubatsira kuwana maonero akasiyana pane zvaunofunga.
Zvimwe Zvingaita / Zvingave Zvisingabatsiri Pakunetsa Kusuruvara
Pakupedzisira, zvichienderana nemamiriro ezvinhu akapoteredza rufu uye / kana hukama hwakasiyana-siyana / hukama hwevanhu vanobatanidzwa, zvimwe zvipingamupinyi zvinogona kuitika zvinogona-kana kuti zvingave-zvingaitawo kuti zvive nekutambudzika kwakaoma kana kukuita kuti unetseke kana uri kunetseka kuchema.
Kushungurudzika kusuruvara kunosanganisira kupedzisira kugadziriswa kwekushungurudzika kwekushungurudza kusvikira pane imwe nguva , zvichida nemaune kana kuti zvisingazivi. Mune zvimwe zviitiko, mumwe munhu angave achida "kuva nesimba" kunze kuitira kuti abatsire mumwe waanoda kurarama nekutevera rufu, kana panguva yemariro ekugadzirisa , kushanda kana kuburitswa, kana mumavhiki / mwedzi inotevera. Mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu, mumwe munhu angasazotanga kushungurudzika mushure mekufa kunoitika nokuti iye atova nekunetseka kwakanyanya, anoda nguva yakawanda yekugadzirisa chokwadi che kurasikirwa, haagoni kushungurudzika kusvikira asangana ne "kushungurudzika," nezvimwewo.
Kushungurudzika kwemaDenfranchised kunogona kuitika apo munhu ane shungu anonzwa iye kana asingakwanisi kubvuma pachena kurasikirwa kwerufu nekuda kwematambudziko chaiwo kana kuti anofungidzirwa anoshandiswa nemhuri yake / shamwari, tsika kana zvechitendero, kana hurumende. Zvinokonzera zvinogona kusanganisira, somuenzaniso, rufu rwakabatanidzwa neHIV / AIDS, kupererwa pamuviri kana kuberekwa, kana kufa kwomunhu mumwe chete wepabonde kana mudzimai wako. Muzviitiko izvi, munhu wacho anogona kunonoka kupindura kwake kushungurudzika kana kunzwa kuti zvakakodzera kuchema ari oga / oga.
Kushungurudzika kunorwadza kunogona kuitika kana rufu rukaitika zvine utsinye, zvisingatarisirwi kana kuti rinokonzera kurasikirwa kweumwe munhu anofa "nguva yake isati yasvika," yakadai sechecheche, mwana, muurayi kana mutsaona wengozi, mumwe munhu ane chirwere chisingaperi / chirwere, nezvimwewo. Kushungurudzika kana kushungurudzika kunogona kukonzera kugadzirisa kwepamusoro uye kunyange kushungurudza kushungurudzika kwepfungwa.
Zvakare, zvakakosha kusimbisa kuti ani naani anonoka kunonoka, kusunungurwa kana kushungurudzika kushungurudzika hakuzoitiwo kutarisana nenhamo yakaoma . Mune zviitiko zvakawanda, kushungurudzika kucharamba kuchiita kushungurudzika kwavo kushungurudza kazhinji pasinei nemamiriro ezvinhu uye pasina kutevera "zvikamu" zvekushungurudzika . Asi kana usina chokwadi, iwe unofanira kufungidzira kutsvaka rubatsiro kubva kune unyanzvi hwepfungwa.
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