Kuwedzera muviri kunowanzoita kuti usanetseka. Kuwedzera kuwedzera kunogona kusava kunetseka kutakura, kunyanya apo kune zvakakwana zvakakwana kuvhara basa kana kukanganisa mabasa anofarira. Pane kusanzwisisika kwakajeka kunobatanidzwa kana kuneta kunokonzera zvinetso, zvakadai sorudzi rwechipiri chirwere cheshuga. Asi zvinowanzoitika kune vose vanobatana nenyonganyonga zviri kungotaura nezvechinhu chacho.
Nokuda kwechinhu chimwe, mutauro wekuneta kunotambudza-kutanga neshoko rokuti "kuneta" pachako. Hapana chikonzero nei shoko iro richifanira kurira kutuka kana kutaura kunyadzisa, asi tsika yedu yakaita kuti iite izvo chete. Izwi rokuti "kuninipiswa" rakakosha kuita, munzvimbo dzakawanda, kusingabatsiri kunowedzera.
Iro shoko rinowanzodikanwa kune mafuta akawanda-zvakajeka haisi nani. Uye kuedza kwakasiyana-siyana pakufamba-famba kunotambudza kwemashoko isu tisingadi nemashoko atinoda zviri nani (bulky, beefy, nezvimwewo) kazhinji zvinongowedzera dambudziko kuburikidza nekujekesa zvatinoita kuti tiwane nzira yakaipoteredza.
Kutaura nezvekuninipiswa hakugoni kufara. Saka, zvisinganzwisisiki, ndakaratidzwa dambudziko iri risingaverengeki pamusoro pemakore angu 25-kana-makore ekutarisira kwekutsungirira: Ndinotaura sei ne _______ yangu pamusoro pehuwandu hwavo?
Kune vakawanda vanogona kugarako avo "_______." Ndakaita kuti vabereki vabvunze kuti vangave sei nehurukuro iyi nevabereki vavo.
Kazhinji kacho, ndakave mune imwe nzira: vanasekuru navanasekuru vanobvunza nezvevana vavo vakwegura. Ndakaita shamwari dzichibvunza nezveshamwari, hama dzinobvunza nezvehama, uye vakaroorana vanobvunza nezvevakaroorana.
Kazhinji, kunyange zvakadaro, yakaoma uye yakawanda pane zviitiko izvi zvinosanganisira vana. Apo vabereki kana vanasekuru navanamai, kana vamwe vadiwa, vane hanya nehutano husingakanganisi hwemwana, ivo vanogara vachirasikirwa nekutaura sei nyaya yacho.
Kuti zvive zvakajeka, kurema kunofanirwa kusakurukurwa zvachose nevana vaduku zvikuru, mumaonero angu. Havanganzwisisi uye havasi kutonga zvinhu zvakakosha-kudya, zuva nezuva maitiro emitambo-chero zvakadaro. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, dambudziko rinodzorera zvakare kuvanhu vakuru vane hanya vachitaura kune vamwe vanhu vakuru vangave vasina kunyanya kufunga, mukuramba, kana kungova kurasikirwa.
Kurisa hurukuro nemwana zvinongonzwisisika apo mwana anogona kunzwisisa uye ane humwe hutongi pamusoro pemitemo yakakodzera. Hakuchina hukuru-hunokodzera-dzose nhamba yepamusoro yeiyi, asi kana kana makore anenge 8 inonzwisisika .
Mwoyo Wenyaya
Chero nzira-ingave kukurukurirana kwakananga nemwana, kana kune mumwe munhu mukuru nokuda kwemukomana iyeye, mhinduro iri nyore, inoshanda, uye zvichida kunyange pachena-rudo.
Zvandinoreva ndezvokuti, chaizvoizvo, hurukuro inofanira kutanga nerudo. "Ndinokuda ..." kana kuti "Ndinoda muzukuru wangu ..." Mune imwe mamiriro ezvinhu, kana tichitaura nechinetso chakafanana neshamwari, "Ini ndine hanya newe" ingadai iri nzira yakakodzera.
Sei nyaya iyi? Chokutanga, kana iwe usinganzwisisiki nekushambadzira musoro wekuremera norudo, saka iwe hausi munhu akakodzera kutarisana naro. Chikonzero chaicho chekukurukurirana uremu hwomumwe munhu kwavari kana (a) pane chikonzero chakanaka chokufungisisa kuti uremu hwavo hunoita kana hunogona kukuvadza hutano hwavo , uye (b) unofarira nezvehutano hwavo nokuti unovatarisira.
Kana uine kusava nechokwadi pamusoro peizvi-kana, semuenzaniso, iwe unofunga kuti ungada kuti mumwe munhu atarure uremu hwavo nokuti unozviona zvichinyadzisa-saka iwe wakanyatsonaka kusava nehanya. Iwe haufaniri kuitaura; iwe-unokanganwira kusununguka-kusina kukodzera. Rudo runokuita kuti uwane.
Usataurirana uremu nemumwe munhu, mwana kana kuti zvimwe, kana uremu, pane imwe, izvo zvine hanya newe. Usataurirana uremu kana iwe unetseka pamusoro pekuonekwa kana kusanganisira kutonga. Kana zvakadaro, iwe unonetseka nezvehutano hwehutano kune umwe munhu waunoda, kusanganisira mwana, iwe wakarurama kuda kutarisa izvo, sezvamunoda kudzivirira munhu iyeye kubva pane imwe njodzi.
Izvozvo, zvino, ndizvo zvaunofanira kutaura: " Ndinokuda, uye ndine hanya kuti kuremera kwako kungava njodzi kwauri-uye ndinoda kubatsira kubatsira kuti zvive pachena. Ndingabatsira sei? "
Izvozvo zvekupedzisira, "ndingabatsira sei," inowanzoita zvinonzwisisika nevechiri kuyaruka nevakuru pane kuvana nevana. Vana havakwanisi kuziva mhinduro, saka zvingasava zvine musoro kubvunza mubvunzo. Zvakare, hapana munhu-ukuru-inoenderana-yose script. Asi nzira yakawanda inofanana zvachose. Saka, kana uchitaura nemwana wako, iwe unogona kuti " ... uye ini ndinoda kubatsira, ndizvo zvakanaka here newe?"
Saizvozvowo, kana uchitaura kune munhu mukuru, kukumbira rubatsiro kunogona kunge kusati kwasvika. Pamwe mubvunzo wakanakisisa, wokutanga ndewokuti: " Ichi ndicho chinhu chatinogona kukurukura here? "
Kunetseka Chaizvo
Kuwanda kwemafuta emuviri hakusi nguva dzose utano hwehutano, asi kazhinji kacho. Kuwedzera kwehupfumi kunoramba kuchikwira pakati pevanhu vakuru nevana munyika yose , uye migumisiro yekuneta-kusanganisira kufa nguva isati yakwana-iri kuwedzera muchero. Kunyanya kunetseka pamusoro peizvi zvakanyatsoshanda. Kutaura nayo pamwero wega woga, zvakare, kana chikonzero chako chiri rudo nekufunganya, kwete kutongwa.
Kana chiri chekuita iwe mushure mekunge wavhara musoro, zvinodaro. Dzimwe nguva ingongova nyaya yekushanda pamwechete pakuvandudza kudya uye maitiro emabasa; dzimwe nguva, kuedza kunofanira kusanganisira kutungamirirwa kwakananga kubva kune unyanzvi hwehutano. Kune imwe chete pasi rose, kunyange zvakadaro: Izvo zvose zvinofanira kunge zvichitarisa pamhuri, kwete mwana mumwechete.
Apo chinonyanya kukoshesa hutano panzvimbo yekureruka, uye rudo panzvimbo pokutonga, hapana kana chikonzero nei mwana achifanirwa "kugadzirisa" uremu hwavo pachavo. Vanofanira, pane kudaro, vave chikamu chemhuri inoshanda pamwe chete pakuve noutano hwakanaka, uye vachibatsirana, nokuti vanodanana. Mukubatana, kune simba.
Kana chipi nechipi chaunoita kugadzirisa dambudziko rinorema mumwana waunoita semhuri, uye iwe unotaurira nekuda kwerudo, iwe haugoni kuenderera zvakanyanya. Tanga hurukuro yako maererano.
Dr Katz ndiye akanga ari mugadziri wenheyo-mu-mukuru wepepanhau rakarongororwa nevana, Childhood Obesity.