Rufu runotiita kuti tisanyanya kunetseka uye kazhinji inotisiyira isu kurasikirwa kwemashoko kare, panguva kana mushure mekuviga kana musangano wekurangaridza. Pasi apa, uchawana zvitatu zvinokurudzira, zvinokurudzira zvekunzwira tsitsi kukubatsira iwe kunyatsobudisa zvinyaradzo zvako uye kupa runyaradzo rwechokwadi kumunhu anenge achishungurudzwa rufu rwehama kana shamwari.
Chii Chawada Kunyanya Pamusoro Pake?
Zvinosuruvarisa, kunyanya kunzwira tsitsi kune vanhu vanowanzotaura kare, panguva kana mushure mekuviga kana sechirangaridzo - zvakadai se "Ndine urombo nekuda kwekurasikirwa kwako," "Ari munzvimbo iri nani," "Nguva inoporesa maronda ose" uye zvimwe mashoko eizvi - kupa avo vakafirwa zvishoma munzira yekunyaradza kunonzwisisika (uye vanogona kunyange kuratidza kusava nehanya).
Zvinyorwa zveizvi hazvitsvaki mhinduro uye, saka, zvinowanzoita kuti munhu anovapa vanzwe zviri nani kuburikidza nekutaura "chimwe chinhu" uye kukurira kusakanganisika kunonzwisisika patinosangana nerufu.
Mukuwedzera, mazwi akavharidzirwa akadai saizvozvi anogona kunge asingazivi achifunga kuti akafirwa haafaniri kutaura pamusoro pomunhu akafa nokuti hapana mumwe munhu anenge achida uye kuti anofanira "kutama" nekukurumidza.
Kunyange zvazvo kazhinji kusina kukodzera kubvunza kana akamira mumutsetse wekugamuchira pamariro ake / kutarisa, achikumbira munhu akachema kuti ataure zvaanofunga, manzwiro uye kuyeuka pamusoro pemunhu akafa panguva yakafanira anogona kuratidza cathartic. Rufu runogumisa hupenyu, kwete ukama, uye avo vanorwisana nekurasikirwa nekusingaperi kweumwe munhu vangave vakagamuchira mukana wekudaidzira zvekuda manzwiro avo nekurangarira nemuteereri ane hanya, anonzwira tsitsi- kunyange kana kuita kudaro kuchikonzera misodzi shomanana.
Ndinokuda
Izvo zvichingova nemashoko mashoma matatu chete, mamwe mashomanana mamwe mazwi muhupenyu hwevanhu ave nekwaniso yekuita zvakanyanya manzwiro uye mararamiro emangwana evanhu, vanhu vaviri kana kunyange nyika dzose. Simba re "Ndinokuda" rinonyanya pane zvose zvisingatauri asi zvakananga mumutsara wacho pachayo uye kuti tinoona sei zvinoreva, zvakadai, "Ndinokukoshesa kupfuura mamwe ose," "Kufara kwako kunondibatsira," "Iwe uri kwete oga "uye" Ini ndiri pano nokuda kwenyu "(pakati pezvimwe zvisingaverengeki uye kududzirwa).
Nokuti vanhu vanowanzonzwa vachisurukirwa nekutambudzika, kunzwa "Ndinokuda" kunogona kupa chiyeuchidzo chakakosha, chinoyeuchidza kuti haafaniri kunzwa ari oga panguva ino yakaoma uye kuti mumwe munhu ane hanya nezvakanaka zvake uye anogadzirira kugadzirisa uye kutsigira mumazuva, masvondo nemwedzi mberi.
Enda Mashoko Kwose
Vanhu vazhinji vanotambudzika kuwana "mazwi akakwana" kuti ataure kune mumwe munhu anoshungurudzwa rufu rwomunhu waunoda sekuti kana pane mazwi emashiripiti kana kutaura kunogona kupedza marwadzo ekurasikirwa uye kuita kuti mazuva, vhiki nemwedzi zviri mberi zvive nyore. Ichokwadi, kunyange zvakadaro, kuti kushungurudzika hakuna kumbobvira kusina maturo uye, kupfuura zvinodaro, avo vakafirwa havazozoyeuki chero chinhu chipi zvacho chawakataura munguva yekufambisa kwekufa nekumariro. (Usazvitora iwe pachako!)
Izvo zvaachawana kunyaradzwa munguva ino yakaoma, zvisinei, uye zvingadaro zvichizoyeuka, ndezvisina maturo, zvisizvo zvemuviri zvekunzwira tsitsi, kutarisira uye rudo. Bata ruoko rwake; kupa chigumbuso chitsva; kupa chikafu kana tsvimbocheche yakachena kana zvichidiwa; mutarise iye mumaziso kuti ataure manzwiro ako asingatauri; zorora ruoko pamaoko ake kana pamafudzi, kana kuti zvibvumira kuti ucheme pachena kana kuti uone kushungurudzika uye kusuruvara unonzwa.
Rufu runogara nokusingaperi uye rinokonzera chinhu chakaoma, chisingagamuchiri chinotora nguva yevakafirwa kugamuchira nekubatanidza muupenyu hwavo hunoenda mberi. Vimba kuti kuchava nenguva yakawanda yakatarisana mberi kutaura uye, nokuda ikozvino, ingopa kupa chipo chinokosha chekunzwisisa kwako wakanyarara, kutsigirwa uye kuvapo kwepanyama kumunhu anochema.