Rufu chinhu chisingafadzi uye chisingaverengeki chisingagamuchirwi chehupenyu, uye kuvapo kwahwo kunotiita kuti tinzwe takasununguka sezvinongoita zvimwe zvingaita. Kunyange kunyanya kukurukurirana kwevanhu kunotambudza kutaura kune mumwe munhu ari kuchema kurasikirwa kwomunhu waunoda. Tariro yekupa imwe nyaradzo kune zvinoshungurudza, vanhu vanowanzoenda kune clichés nedzimwe mazwi asingatauri anokurumidza kuisa pfungwa kuitira kuti arege kunyarara.
Zvinosuruvarisa, nechinangwa chakanaka, dzakawanda zvekunzwa mazwi anoshandiswa pamariro, kumuka uye mukunyaradza mabhii zvakashata uye, pachena, asinganzwisisiki. Heano zvinhu zvishanu zvinowanzosanangurwa iwe haufaniri kumbotaura mumariro kana kuti chirangaridzo kune mumwe munhu anoshungurudza rufu rwomudiwa.
"Ndinoziva Manzwiro Aunoita"
Kwete, iwe hausi.
Kunyange kana, somuenzaniso, iwewo wakaona kufa kusina kufanira kwemwanasikana wako ane makore gumi nematanhatu, uyo ainziwo Anne, mune imwe ngozi yakavhiringidzika-inotyaira yakaitika nenzira imwe chete yemugwagwa mukuru, mazuva 22 chete mushure mokunge agamuchirawo bhodhi rake, nekutyaira motokari-yebhuruu, uye panguva imwechete yeusiku ... - kunyange kana mamiriro ezvinhu akafanana, iwe hauzive kuti mumwe munhu anonzwa sei pamusoro pokurasikirwa nemwana wake .
Kufanana nehupenyu hwedu, nzira iyo mumwe nomumwe wedu anogamuchira nayo uye anopindura kushungurudza yakasiyana. Kutaura kuti unoziva kuti mumwe munhu anonzwa sei ari kuzvideredza.
Nzira iri nani : Kana wakaona rufu rwomunhu ari pedyo uye uchinzwa kudiwa kwekutsanangura, ita saizvozvo nenzira yemibvunzo yakasununguka kana rondedzero. Somuenzaniso, iwe unogona kuti, "Mwanasikana wangu paakafa, ndakazvipa mhosva nekumurega achishandisa motokari ihwohwo husiku.Kana iwe uri kunzwa saizvozvo, tapota ziva kuti ndiri pano kuzotaura chero nguva yaunoda."
Uye kana iwe usingazivi kuti munhu anochema rufu anonzwa sei, zvakanyatsonaka kutaura, "Handizivi kuti ndati kudini, asi chinyatsoziva kuti ndine urombo." (Rega kungoti, "Ndine urombo nokuda kwekurasikirwa kwako." Uyu mutsara unoteterera uye unonamatira kune vanochema.)
"Ari munzvimbo iri nani iye zvino"
Chero ani anotaura mutauro uyu haana kujeka kuti haana kubatwa nekurasikirwa nekusingaperi kweumwe munhu pedyo nekuda kwekufa. Amai vachitarisana neramangwana risina mwana wavo, murikadzi anotanga kudzokera kuimba isina chinhu yaakagovana nemudzimai wake kwemazana makumi emakore, chero munhu akatamburira kunzwisisa kuti nei motyairi ane doro rinodhakwa-kutyaira rakanga richiri seri kwegumbo "usiku ihwohwo" - idzi vakapukunyuka (uye vamwe vazhinji vachichema rufu) funga kuti nzvimbo yakanakisisa kune vadiwa vavo vakafa yakarurama parutivi rwavo uye pakati pevapenyu.
Kuudza munhu ane shungu kune imwe nzira, kunyange iwe uchidavira kuti nzvimbo iri nani denga, inoratidza kuti iye anofanirwa kunge achifara nezvekurasikirwa uye kuti kuchema uye kuratidza kushushikana pamusoro pemamiriro acho ezvinhu hakusi panzvimbo. (Uye kunyange kana munhu anochema achifunga muhupenyu mushure mekufa, kurasikirwa nemumwe munhu waunoda kazhinji kunopesana nokutenda.Nangarirai, mupositori uyo ainamata Mwari akaramba achiramba Jesu katatu, maererano neBhaibheri.)
Nzira iri nani : Ani naani akabatwa mukati mekushungurudzika kushungurudza anotamburira kubvuma kuti nei mudiwa asina nzvimbo imwechete - pakati pevapenyu . Nokudaro, pane pasina chikonzero chekuti iwe utaure kuti iye pane imwe nzvimbo pane iye zvino. Pane kudaro, taurirana zvaunofarira chiyeuchidzo chemufi, kana zvakakodzera, izvo zvinogona kubatsira kuyeuka zvimwe zviyeuchidzo zvinofadza pamusoro pehupenyu hwake.
"Usachema" kana "Unoda Kuva Wakasimba"
Kutaura kuti mumwe munhu ari kupindura sei kana kubata mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma kunoderedza uye haashandisi chimwe chinangwa kunze kwekuita manzwiro ekutadza uye / kana kutsamwa. Kazhinji, vanhu vanoona zvikamu zvakasiyana-siyana zvakafanana kana zvikamu zvekusuruvara zvinotevera kurashikirwa kukuru, asi nguva uye kuti mumwe munhu anoratidza sei kushungurudzika kwake kusuruvara kwakasiyana.
Kuudza munhu anenge achichema kuti haafaniri kutaura manzwiro ezvokwadi zvinogona kuita kuti pave neshungu isina kunaka kana kuti yakaoma nokuti munhu wacho haagoni kugadzirisa, uye pakupedzisira kugamuchira, manzwiro anosangana nekurasikirwa norufu.
Nzira iri nani : Bvisa basa rako rekuziva nguva kwechinguva uye uzvibvumirire kupindura mupfungwa. Mashoko haakoshi iyezvino; Kukoshesa uye kurangarira kuchave nekubata ruoko rwako nezvose zvako, nguva yakareba, kunzwa kwechanza chako pafudzi, kana misodzi yakagoverwa.
"Anotarisa Zvakasikwa"
Wakambotarisa munhu mupenyu ndokutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai here? Zvechokwadi kwete, nokuti mumwe munhu anotarisa zvisikwa muhupenyu anotarisa, zvakanaka ... zvakasikwa . Mune mamwe mazwi, hatinzwi kudiwa kwekutaura pamusoro payo. Kutaura mashoko aya paanotarisa munhu akafa akavata muhomwe, zvisinei, anongotsanangura kuti iye haasi mupenyu.
Mukuwedzera, chimwe chezvinhu zvinowanzovhunduka pamariro emabasa ekuchengetedza mazamu ndeyekuti mhuri ichafunga kuti yakasvibiswa uye yakashambadzirwa inodiwa haina kutarisa zvisikwa, kureva, iyo yaakaita kana vachiri kurarama. Nokudaro, kuva wekutanga kutaura pamusoro pekuonekwa kweakafa hakumbove wakachenjera nokuti hauzive kuti nhengo yemhuri kana yepedyo yaunoda anofunga.
Nzira iri nani : Zviri pachena, kana munhu ari kuchema achikubvunza, "Haasi iye anotaridzika zvakanaka here?" saka iwe unofanirwa kubvumirana. Mhedziso yeiyo, dzivisa chero zvinyorwa pamusoro pekuonekwa kwevakafa mumamiriro ezvinhu akafuridzirwa / akacheneswa, akadai sokumuka kana kutorwa. Pane kudaro, ivai nemufaro mukuyeuka waunofunga kuti unotora / unotaurira chimwe chinhu chinokosha pamusoro pomunhu akafa.
"Regai Ndizive Kana Ndikwanisa Kubatsira"
Kuudza mumwe munhu achikuvadza nekuda kwekufa - uye atova mupfungwa mupfungwa nehuzhinji hwezvisarudzo zvaaizofanira kuita mumazuva mashomanana apfuura - kuti iwe unoda kuti aite chimwe chisarudzo hachina basa uye ane mutoro. Zvinopfuura zvingangoita, munhu wacho haana kufunga zvishoma nezvezvinodiwa uye mabasa ake "hupenyu" hunobva pakufa. Kubvunza mubvunzo uyu, saka, ingovaisa panzvimbo iyo kuitira kuti iwe unzwe uchinge usisina simba.
Nzira iri nani : Kana iwe uchida nomwoyo wose kubatsira murwere pane imwe nguva, taura chete kuti iwe uchamutumira kwaari kana vhiki inotevera kana zvinhu zvagadzikana zvishoma. Panguva iyoyo, kwete chete kunguva yemariro neyekuita mabasa, asi kunze kweguta vanokoka vangave vadzokera kumba, zvakare.
Uye paunoshevedza, iwe unofanirwa kugovera mazano chaiwo kana maviri panzvimbo yekusiyira kune munhu akafirwa. Iwe unogona kupa kuti ucheke uswa, fosheni iyo motokari kana kuti uite chimwe chekuita basa rokunze kunze. Kuchenesa imba, kuita machira kana kuunganidza zvimwe zvekudya zvinogona kuratidza kubatsira, zvakare. Zvichida zvakanyanya kufanirwa zvichava chipo chokuunza zvokudya uye kungopedza nguva yakati kuteerera, kana munhu achinzwa sokutaura, kana kupa hukama hwakanyarara.
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- Mazano mashanu ekunyora / Kupa Mazano Okubudirira