7 matanho ekukubatsira kuti uwane mazwi akakodzera erudo
Tsamba yenyaradzo kana nhepfenyuro inoratidza tsitsi yako inogona kupa chinyorwa chikuru chenyaradzo kune umwe munhu anoshungurudzika kurasikirwa neshamwari . Icho chiito chisingaoneki chinovaita kuti vazive kuti vari mumifungo yenyu. Kutsvaga mazwi akakodzera okutaura kana kuchema kwomumwe munhu rufu kungave kwakaoma, asi mazano mashoma achakubatsira kutanga.
Zvikonzero Zvokunyora Kutevedza Tsamba
Zviri nyore kutora kadhi rakagadzirwa ne-mass from shop card yako, asi kunyora kupa mazwi ako ega, kubva pamwoyo ekunyaradza anopa mutero unobatsira kune wakafa .
Inoratidzawo kuti iye, uyewo munhu anochema, anokosha kwauri.
Chiitiko kune uyo akapona uye kuti iwe wakatora nguva yekunyora tsamba kana nhepfenyuro ichapa kunyaradza kukuru pane chero maonero aunogona kuwana pakadhi kamukwazisa. Mukuwedzera, kunyora tsamba yako pachako kunokubvumira kugovera chiyeuchidzo chaungave iwe unogona kusanganisira wakafa. Iwe unogonawo kutora nguva ino kuti upe kupa kutaura kana kubatsira mubatsiri mumavhiki nemwedzi dziri mberi.
Kana uchida kugovera rubatsiro rwako mune tsamba yako, zvakanakisisa kana iwe unogona kutaura izvi nenzira dzakasiyana. Somuenzaniso, iwe unogona kunyora, "Ndinokwanisa here kuuya nechingwa musi weChitatu chinotevera," kana kuti "Ndingada kukura musvet wako vhiki inouya." Kazhinji kacho, vanhu vanongotaura kuti "ndidanei kana muchida ini." Kupa rubatsiro nenzira iyi kunoisa mutoro wekudana kune uyo ari kuchema. Kupa rubatsiro rwakananga kunopawo humwe hunoga hunoga.
Usati watanga kunyora, ungadawo kunyora zita romumwe wako pasi pakarenda yako, taura mwedzi mitatu uye mwedzi mitanhatu kubva zvino, kuitira kuti ugone kuonana.
Vanhu vazhinji vanoona kuti vakakomberedzwa nerudo mumazuva akapoteredza kurasikirwa kwavo, asi vanozviwana vachishungurudzika uye vachinzwa vhiki shomanene zvikuru uye mwedzi mumugwagwa apo vamwe vose vanoita sevakakanganwa.
Rimwe caveat rinofanira kutaurirwa usati wasvika mumitemo yekunyora tsamba yako.
Kushandura tsamba kunogona kunyaradza zvikuru kune vadiwa. Kana iwe ukangoshamwaridzana nemunhu waunoronga kunyora kwaari, zvakadaro, tsamba yenyaradzo ingasave iyo nzira yakanakisisa yokuratidza kunetseka kwako. Chidzidzo chekutarisa vanhu vakafira muchikwata chekuchengetedza kwakanyanya chakawana kuti tsamba dzekunzwira tsitsi dzakanyorwa nachiremba kana mukoti anotarisira hazvina kuderedza kushungurudzika, uye zvakanyanya kuwedzera zviratidzo zvekuora mwoyo. Zvechokwadi, mamiriro ezvinhu ose akasiyana, asi tora nguva pfupi kuti uone kana kunyora tsamba yako kuchenjera. Kazhinji yenguva iyo ichagamuchirwa nomufaro nemunhu ari kuchema.
Mirayiridzo Yekunyora Tsitsi Tsamba
Chokutanga pane zvose, edza kunyora uye kutumira kana kununura tsamba yako yekunzwira tsitsi kana kuverenga nokukurumidza . Zviri nani kuita saizvozvo mukati memavhiki maviri ekutanga mushure mekurasikirwa. (Kana iwe wakapfuura nguva iyoyo, nenzira dzose, nyora nyora yako.) Pakutanga zviri nani, asi tsamba yako inogona kungosvika apo mudiwa wako ari kunzwa nyika ichienderera mberi isina iye).
Kuvigwa kana kuvigwa kunowanzoitika munguva ino. Kana iwe uchizove uripo, zvakagamuchirwa kuti uise tsamba yako yehurudo mumudhaki kana kuti bhokisi rekuunganidza makadhi ekunzwira tsitsi kana iwe usingadi kuitumira.
Izvi zvinowanzopiwa pamasangano. Kunze kwekuti, nokuti pane mabasa mazhinji anobatanidzwa mushure mekunge afa , mupiro wacho angave asina kuzarura mail nokukurumidza.
Zvadaro, kana zvichibvira, unofanira kunyora tsamba yako yekunyunyuta kana kuti chinyorwa pane zvinyorwa kana pepa rakanaka panzvimbo pokunyora kubva kombiyuta. Pamwe manyorero ezvinyorwa ari kunyanya kusakosha munyika yanhasi ema emails nemagwaro, saka chinyorwa chinyorwa chinonyanya kukosha panguva ino yakaoma. Kana iwe uchida kushandisa kadhi rakatengwa, tora tsamba yako mukati memakadhi, kana kuti nyora pa kadhi iyo kana nzvimbo inobvumira.
Pakupedzisira, edza kunyora tsamba yako yekunzwira tsitsi iwe pachako, sezvaunowanzoita kutaura nomunhu wacho.
Usafunga kuti iwe unofanirwa kuve wakanyanyisa kana kuedza kuuya nenhetembo kana ndima iwe pachako.
Kungofunga nezvechimwe chinhu chaunoda kutaura kune uyo anogamuchira anoratidza manzwiro aunoita. Zvinogona kunge zviri pamusoro pokurasikirwa kana kuti iwe unofarira zvakadini munhu anenge aripo. Kana iwe uchinetseka, kuverenga zvishomanana zvinyorwa nezvekushungurudzika, kurasikirwa, kana kuchema zvingakukurudzira iwe uye kukubatsira kuwana mazwi ako pachako.
7 Zvikamu zveChirangaridzo Tsamba
Misiyano pakati pekunyaradza tsamba netsitsi yekunzwira tsitsi ndeyekureba kweumwe neumwe. Nyora inogona kuva mitsara shomanana apo tsamba dzinogona kunge dziri mashoma ndima. Ndizvo zvaunosarudza iwe zvaunosarudza kuzvinyorera uye zvinoenderana nezvokuti unoda kuratidza zvakawanda sei. Zvinowanzoitikawo kutanga kutora tsamba uye nokukurumidza kuwana kuti wakanyora ndima dzakasiyana.
Pasinei nesarudzo yako, tsamba dzekunyaradza kana manotsi zvinowanzoshandisa zvimwe kana zvimwe zvinotevera zvinomwe.
- Gamuchirai kurasikirwa uye taura kune vakafa kune zita. Usaedza kutamba-svetuka kana kuti kudzivisa chokwadi chokuti mumwe munhu akafa - mupiro anoziva. Uyezve, pane zvikonzero zvizhinji nei iwe uchifanira kushandisa zita remunhu akafa uyo achabatsira vakafirwa panguva iyi yakaoma. Uyewo, edza kusashandisa hufumi hwekufa nokuti, zvakare, haunganyengeri munhu.
- Tsanangura tsitsi yako.
- Cherechedza imwechete kana kuti yakawanda yehufumi hunokosha huya mupfungwa.
- Itai kuti iwe unofarira chiyeuchidzo chemufi.
- Yeuchidza avo vakafirwa nemasimba emudiwa wake uye / kana unhu hunokosha.
- Tipei kubatsira rubatsiro nenzira yakati: "Ndiudzei kana ini ndichigona kubatsira" ndeimwe yezvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana vanhu havafaniri kumbotaura pamariro , asi zvinowanzonzwika chero zvakadaro. Zvinosuruvarisa, izvi zvinongokubatsira kuti uzvinzwe zviri nani paunenge uchiisa mutoro kune uyo anochema kuti afunge nezvechinhu chakasiyana uye obata newe. Pane kudaro, ipa chinhu chakanaka uye chakanaka chaungaita.
- Kuguma ne tariro inofungisisa, chido, kana tsitsi. Somuenzaniso, iwe unogona kusanganisira "Iwe uri mupfungwa dzangu" kana "Ndichagara ndiripo kuti ndikutsigire." Dzivisa kushandisa izwi rekupedzisira-shoko rekupedzisira, rakadai se "Kutendeseka," "Rudo," kana kuti "Zvizere," izvo hazvisi sevamwe. Pane kudaro, iwe unogona kupedza nemafungiro anoshingaira akadai se "iwe nemunamato nguva imwe neimwe" kana chimwe chinhu chinoratidzira mararamiro aunoramba uchiita muupenyu hwekufirwa. Yeuka, tsamba yako ndeyevapenyu, kwete vakafa. Gumisa tsamba yako nenzira iyo inoratidza izvi haisi kuguma kwekubata kwako.
A Sample Condolence Tsamba
Heino nhepfenyuro yetsamba yemunyaradzo inoshandisa zvikamu zvinomwe zvinoratidzwa pamusoro apa. Iwe haufaniri kutevera template iyi chaizvo, uye inogona kungoda kushandisa zvikamu zviduku zvemuenzaniso wedu; iri kungo pano kuti ikubatsire kuronga pfungwa dzako. Inzwa wakasununguka kugadzirisa zvakare, kuwedzera, kana kuvhara matanho aya apo iwe unyorera tsamba yako. Nyora kubva pamwoyo wako uye uvimbe kuti chipi nechipi chaunosanganisira chichakodzera nguva yako nekuedza kubatsira vanenge vafirwa.
Dear _____________,
1. Gamuchira kurasikirwa uye utaure kune vakafa kune zita.
Ndakanga ndine shungu kwazvo kunzwa nezvekufa kwe _____________.
2. Ratidza tsitsi yako .
Handigone kufungidzira kuti izvi zvinofanira kunge zvakaoma sei iwe zvino, asi chinyatsovimba kuti ndine hanya newe. (Ramba uri mupfungwa, iwe hauna chaunoziva kuti munhu wacho anonzwa sei, uye iye achawana nyaradzo pakuziva kuti iwe unozviziva).
3. Cherechedza imwe kana yakawanda yehumwe hunokosha hwevakafa.
____________ yaiva mweya munyoro, munyoro. Aizoita chero chinhu kuti abatsire kuvandudza hupenyu hwemwana.
4. Ivai nemudiwa wenyu waunofarira .
Ndinoyeuka nguva iyo _________________.
5. Yeuka avo vakafirwa nemasimba ake ega uye / kana unhu hwakanaka.
Handikwanisi kufungidzira kuti uchasara zvakadini _______________ uye iwe wakagara uchiona zvakanakisisa kune wese waunoziva nekuda kwemoyo wako une rupo.
6. Tipei kubatsira rubatsiro mune imwe nzira.
Zvichida iwe unogona kushandisa tarenda yako ye scrapbooking kuti uite bhuku rekuyeuka re _________________? Kana iwe uchida, ndinogona kuuya musi weChishanu manheru kuti ndikubatsire kuita shanduro. Ndine mifananidzo yakanaka ye _______________ iyo ndinoda kugoverana newe, pamwe nekuyeuka kwezvimwe zvevanhu kuti akabatsira sei vana.
7. Pedza netariro inofungisisa, chido, kana tsitsi.
Ndichagara ndiri pano kuti ndikusigirei,
[ Zita zita rako ] _____________________
Zvikamu zveChirangaridzo Cherechedzo
Sezvakataurwa pamusoro apa, kunyorwa kwekunyorerwa nemaoko kunongova nzira shomanana yemagwaro ekunyaradza. Inogona kuratidza sechinhu chinorehwa kune vakafirwa uye inobata kunaka kuti iise mukati memakadhi ekunzwira tsitsi.
Paunonyora tsamba yekunyaradza, iwe unofanirwa kusarudza zvinhu zvishomanana kubva kumatanho manomwe ari pamusoro. Somuenzaniso, unogona kushandisa zvinotevera:
- Gamuchirai kurasikirwa uye taura kune vakafa kune zita.
- Tsanangura tsitsi yako.
- Cherechedza imwechete kana kuti yakawanda yehufumi hunokosha huya mupfungwa.
- Kuguma ne tariro inofungisisa, chido, kana tsitsi.
Shoko Rinobva
Yeuka kuti mazano aya anongopa mazano ekukubatsira iwe kunyora tsamba yekunyaradza kana chinyorwa. Pakupedzisira, unhu hwakasiyana-siyana hwewe ndiwe uye ukama hwako nevakafa kana kuti mudiwa wako anorarama achagadzirisa zvaunonyora. Nokudaro, unogona kushandisa zvose, zvishomanana, kana zvimwe zvezvinhu zvinoratidzwa pamusoro apa netsitsi yako. Chinhu chakakosha ndechokuti iwe unyore kubva pamwoyo wako.
Yakarongedzwa naChris Raymond
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