Mubvunzo: Mwana Wangu Ane Autism Ane Mashoma Here?
Ndiri kunetseka nokuti mwanakomana wangu uyo zvino ane makore gumi ane shamwari shoma. Zvechokwadi anofarira kutamba nemumwe mukomana mumwe chete anewo nyaya. Izvo hazviita sekumunetsa, asi ndinonetseka zvikuru pamusoro pekusurukirwa kwaachazove kana ari mukuru. Ndine shamwari dzakawanda uye vamwe vavo kubva kuchikoro chechikoro.
Handidi kuti mwana wangu atambure sezvandinotya iye, uye kunyange zvakadaro mune ramangwana. Iwe unogona kundibatsira nekunetseka kwangu uyewo nemwanakomana wangu here?
Mhinduro: Kubva Dhiyabhorosi Robert Naseef:
Dambudziko rako rinomutsa zvinetso zvevabereki vakawanda vakazvitsaurira uye vane rudo. Kuti mwana wako anoita seanofara ikozvino chikomborero chisingafaniri kutorwa zvishoma, asi pachena kuti icho hachizivimbiso chemangwana mufaro. Zviyeuchidzo zvinonakidza zvehucheche hwako zvakare chinhu chakanaka. Tinoda kuti vana vedu vave nezviitiko zvinofadza sezvedu uye isu tinoda kuvadzivirira kubva pane zviitiko zvinorwadza. Nenzira iyi, tine tsoka rimwe munguva yakapfuura (mumhuri yatakabva), uye rimwe rutsoka ikozvino, mumhuri yatakagadzira.
Kuongororwa kwe autism kunounza matambudziko mukukurukurirana nekukurukurirana, izvo zvinokanganisa zvinotarisirwa nevabereki kune vana vavo. Izvi hazvirevi kuti mwana haakwanisi kutaura uye kutaura, asi zvinoreva kuti hupenyu huchasiyana zvakanyanya kupfuura hwakatarirwa.
Hapana mubvunzo kuti mamiriro emwanakomana wako ave akaoma kumhuri yako. Ndinoda kudana nheyo yako, "Usashuva kwatiri" naJim Sinclair. Uyu munhu mukuru ane autism anobatsira vabereki kuronga nyaya idzi dzinokosha. Sezvaanotaura, "Autism inzira yekuve, iyo yakazara, inoratidzira ruzivo rwese, manzwiro ose, manzwiro, mafungiro, manzwiro, uye kusangana, zvose zvehupenyu.
Hazvibviri kuparadzanisa autism kubva kumunhu - uye kana zvaive zvichibvira, munhu waunenge asiya haasi iye munhu wawakatanga naye. "
Ushamwari huri chimwe chezviitiko izvi zvakasiyana. Kuti mwanakomana wako ane shamwari yaanoda kuva nayo ndeyekupembererwa. Hazvishamisi kuti angave ane zvimwe zvakafanana nemweya wemhuri - mumwe mwana ane kusiyana. Izvi hazvirevi kuderedza kana kuramba mafungiro ako. Zvakakosha kugamuchira maitiro ako emanzwiro ekusiyana kwemwana wako, kusanganisira kunetseka kwako nezveramangwana rake mufaro. Kugamuchira zvaunoshushikana nazvo, kuzviona, kuzviremekedza, uye kuvabvumira kushambidza pamusoro pako ndiyo nzira yakanakisisa yekubatsira iwe nomwanakomana wako kuti vafare uye vave zvose zvaanogona kuva. Izvo zvandinofunga kuti tine utongi hwakanyanya ndeizvi: ukama hwedu nemwana wedu ane upenyu hwakaoma, uyo akasiyana chaizvo, uye ndiani akanaka uye anodiwa zuva rimwe nerimwe.
Kubva kuna Dr. Cindy Ariel:
Isu tose tinoda zvakanakisisa kuvana vedu uye tinowanzofananidza hupenyu hwavo nehumwe pachedu ose. Munzira dzakawanda, izvi zvinotibatsira kurondedzera kwavari uye kubatsira nekuvatungamirira sezvavanokura. Mune dzimwe nzira, kunyange zvakadaro, inotikurudzira kuita zvimwe zvematongerwo edu pachedu kuvana vedu uye kuvabata sevari ivo isu pachedu.
Vana vedu vakafanana nesu nenzira dzakawanda, asi ivo havasi isu .
Zvakaoma kudzidza kuparadzanisa vana vedu kwatiri. Kunyanya, saamai, tave tichinzwa kushamwaridzana kwezvinhu zvipenyu sevana vedu chaizvoizvo vaiva mukati memiviri yedu uye vakaiswa kwatiri; isu kamwe tikatogoverawo mararamiro avo ehupenyu neropa. Isu tinoziva kuti vakanyatsova chikamu chedu, asi isu tinofanira kudzidza kudziparadzanisa isu uye kuvanzwisisa sevanhu vari voga iye zvino vari kurarama uye vari kukura vari voga, vasina rubatsiro rukuru kubva kwatiri.
Iwe unonzwika semunhu chaiye. Zvinonakidza kuti unofarira vanhu zvakanyanya uye unokwanisa kuchengeta ushamwari hwakadaro kwenguva refu.
Ndine chokwadi kuti izvi zvakakubatsira nenzira dzakawanda muupenyu hwako hwose. Mwana wako angave asina kufanana newe. Ichokwadi chokuti ane shamwari chero ipi zvayo chinhu chakanaka. Vanhu vazhinji vakanaka neshamwari imwe chete kana vaviri vepedyo uye vanonzwa vakasununguka vachigara nenzira iyi.
Vana vazhinji pavanoratidzira vanopedzisira vachisvika kune vamwe vana vanogona kunge vakasiyana uye vanogona kunzwisisa kuti zvinonzwa sei kuti vakasiyana; dzimwe nguva vanowana ukama mukati uye kuburikidza nekusiyana kwavo uye inovanyaradza uye vanogadzikana kwavari. Hazvinzwi sezvinoita mwana wako achitambura nenzira yaungave iwe kana iwe usina shamwari dzakawanda. Iwe unogona kumupa kukurudzira uye mikana yekuve pedyo nekubatana nevamwe uye nhamba yake yekunyaradza kune vamwe inogona kukura zvishoma nezvishoma. Asi kukanganisa kunogona kungoita kuti anzwe akasununguka.
Chikamu chinokosha chekukura kwakanaka ndiko kukwanisa kuda uye kudiwa. Hapana mutemo wekuti vanhu vangani vaunofanira kuda kana kudiwa navo. Edza kusafunganya pamusoro pehukama hwake zvakanyanya kunze kwekunge ataurirana newe kuti uri kutambudzika kwaari. Kumubatsira neshamwari iyi inokosha kunogona kumubatsira kuti azvizarurire zvakanyanya uye pakupedzisira anogona kuita humwe hukama. Mwanakomana wako ane mukana wekuita newe kumativi ake , zviri pachena kuti anomuda.
Robert Naseef, Ph.D., naCindy Ariel, Ph.D., ndivo vashanduri ve "Voices kubva kuSpectrum: Vabereki, Vanasekurukuru, Vanun'una, Vane Autism, uye Vashandi Vanogovera Uchenjeri Hwayo" (2006). Pamusoro pewebhu pa http://www.alternativechoices.com.