Kuronga basa rekuviga , chiyeuchidzo, uye / kana kuburitsa hazvirevi nyore, asi basa rinoramba risingadzivisiki zvakadaro. Ichi chinyorwa chinopa zvikanganiso zvitatu zvinowanzovigwa zvemariro-fungiro iwe unofanirwa kudzivisa kuita, zvisinei iwe uri kugadzirira kushanda iwe pachako kana mudiwa kana mushure mekufa.
Nhema 1: Hasi Kuongorora Kugovera Mariro
Maererano neongororo yakabudiswa nemotokari yemudziyo Edmunds muna 2014, vanhu vanotenga motokari itsva vakashanyira vatengesi vemotokari maviri uye vakaitisa kuedza-kutengesa mairi, paavhareji.
Mukuwedzera, 89 muzana yevatsvakurudzo vakapindura vakaratidza kuti "vanoda kufanirwa zvakakwana nekutsvakurudza kwakawanda sezvinobvira" vasati vafamba mune mutengesi.
Kusiyana neizvi, zvakaenzana nehuwandu hwevatengi nemararamiro emarariro (89%) vakaratidza kuti vakashanyira kana kuti vakafonera imba imwe chete yemariro pamusangano, maererano neongororo yakabudiswa muna May 2015 ne National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA) iyo yakaongorora kumariro -kanyora zvido uye maitiro. Maererano neNFDA yekuongororwa kwemazuva ano, zvikonzero zvina zvakakonzerwa nevasarudzo vakasarudzwa kune imwe nzvimbo yemariro yemugove inosanganisira ruzivo rwekare pane zvakasimba; vakanga vatoziva mutungamiriri wemariro; iyo nzvimbo; uye mukurumbira wayo.
Kunyange zvazvo zvakaoma kukakavara nebasa rakapfuura rakanaka kana ukama hwehukama, izvi zviviri zvinongoratidzira kuti vatengi kazhinji vanoita sevanonyanya kukosha pakutsvakurudza zvavanogona kuwana kana uchitenga motokari itsva kupfuura ivo vanoita pakutsvaga mutengesi akafanirwa kufambisa rufu mudiwa.
(Kuti ive yakarurama, vashomanana vanomanikidzwa kutenga motokari itsva mumazuva maviri kusvika kune manomwe, sezvinowanzoitika pakusarudza mugove wekuviga mushure mekunge munhu waunoda afa.)
Pasinei, kana zvichibvira, kutora nguva yekufananidza mariro uye / kana kupemberera vanhu munzvimbo yako kunogona kukuchengetedza mari uye / kana kukubatsira kuti uwane "yakanakisisa" yemariro emusha, kumakuva, kupisa, kana kupemberera iwe.
Izvo zvinotarisirwa nehupenyu hwekupedzisira-hupenyu hunogona kusiyanisa zvishoma zvichienderana nemupi wezvigadzirwa kana zvimwechetezvo, saka usafungidzira kuti munhu wese munharaunda yako ane mhosva yakafanana. Zvinotonyanya kukosha, kuwana mutsva unogona kukubatsira kuronga basa rinokosha, roga rinogutsa rinoratidza uye rinoremekedza hupenyu husingaenzaniswi hwevakafa, vachikubatsira iwe uye vamwe vachichema uye / kana kufembera hupenyu hwake, nyaya dzakawanda maererano nehuwandu iwe uchagamuchira.
Nhema 2: Kwete Kubvunza Mibvunzo
Kushungurudzika kunokonzerwa nerufu rweumwe munhu watinoda kunogona kunzwa kunetseka dzimwe nguva. Inopinda mumhepo ine simba isingagumi yekusuwa uye kushungurudzika, maawa, mazuva nemavhiki mushure mekurasikirwa kunowanzopfuura muhutu sezvinoita vakafirwa vanowana zvakaoma kuisa pfungwa pane zvimwe zvinopfuura kushungurudzika kwavo.
Zvinosuruvarisa, vanhu vazhinji vanofanirwa kuronga mariro uye / kana kuburitsa mabasa kune mumwe waunoda munguva iyi yepfungwa, izvo zvinogona kusanganisira kuita zvakawanda zvezvisarudzo uye zvisarudzo. Zvinonzwisisika, kusuruvara kunogona kukonzera kuziva kwako / kutonga panguva ino uye kunogona kukuchengetedza kusaongorora zvese zvaunogona kuwana. Nokudaro, pasinei nokuti uri kuronga kumariro here, kana mushure mokufa, iwe unofanira kubvunza chero upi neupi mubvunzo wako unawo pamusoro pebasa rako uye mafungiro ako anosarudza zvakanakisisa zvaunogona uye usati wasiya chero chinhu.
Mutarisiri akanaka, ingave imba yemariro, kumakuva, kupisa, kana kupemberera, anofanira kuzvipira nemwoyo wose mibvunzo yako uye haamboiti kuti unzwe uchikurumidzira sezvaunoita urongwa hwako, kana kukuendesa kune imwe nzvimbo yekuviga kana yekunyengera yausina ' t anoda. Zvakanaka, iye achatora nguva yekutanga kunzwisisa rudzi rwebasa (s) raunoda uye ozozvipira kuratidza zvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana zvekugadzirwa uye zvekushandira zvinowanikwa kukubatsira kuronga basa rinokosha, rinoitirwa munhu.
Kana zvisingaiti, ipapo iwe unofanira kunge uchishanyira mumwe munhu anokwanisa kugovera kana iwe uri kuronga kushanda iwe pachako kana mumwe munhu waunoda.
Kana iwe uri kuronga marariro uye / kana kuteterera mushure mekufa kwemudiwa, zvakakwana uye zvinogamuchirwa kukumbira mumwe munhu waunovimba kuti achapinda musangano wekuviga mhemberero newe kana iwe uchifunga kuti hausi kumunhu oga kana kuti unoda kunzwa imwe pfungwa yakakosha usati wazvipira pane chimwe chinhu.
Kushungurudza 3: Kutsigira Mushure meMariro
Pane mhembera yekare -Mariro hausi zuva muhupenyu hwose, ihwo hupenyu hwose muzuva- uye ani zvake anenge arasikirwa neshamwari yepedyo, kana kupinda kumariro kana kushandiswa kwebasa kutsigira nekunyaradza munhu ane, kazhinji anonzwisisa zvinoreva chirevo ichi. Zvinosuruvarisa, vanhu vazhinji vanokanganisa kufunga kuti mhemberero chaiye kana musangano wekuyeuchidza, uye / kana kuvigwa kana kupisa, zvinoratidza "kuguma" kwemazuva ekugamuchirwa kwekusuruvara pamusoro pekufa kwevakafa. ( Kuvhara ishoko rinorwadza rinowanzoshandiswa munyaya ino.)
Ichokwadi ndechekuti kushungurudzika kunopera uye hakungogumi pakarepo mushure mekuvigwa kana kuti kupembera. Vaya vari pedyo nemunhu wakafa haawanzoona "kugadziriswa" nokukurumidza apo magetsi ekutarisira zvakasara uye kuita zvido zvaidiwa, tsika, mhemberero uye tsika zvinopedzisa. Kune vazhinji, zvishamiso zvezvisarudzo zvaanofanira kuita paanenge achigadzirira marangariro uye / kana yekupedzisira pane pane-pane zvinodiwa (kureva, mushure mekunge mumwe munhu afa asina kumbogadzirisa mariro); kuvapo kwevakawanda, vanotsigira nhengo dzemhuri neshamwari dzebasa (s); uye maitiro akarongwa emabasa aya / zviitiko zvinogona kunonoka / kuvhiringidza munhu ane shungu kubva pamhinduro yake.
Ingobvunza chirikadzi kana murikadzi, somuenzaniso, zvakaoma sei kudzokera kumusha kwekutanga kokutanga kumariro kumusha waakagovana nemumwe wako kana mudzimai wake; edza kufungidzira kuti amai kana baba vakatanga sei kunzwa pavanopinda mumwana wavo asina chinhu, asinganyarari mukamuri mushure mokuisa mwanakomana kana mwanasikana kuti azorore; kana kuti kunzwa kwakanyanya sei "mukamuri yemwana" kunochinja shure kwekuenda pamuviri kana kuberekwa. Vanhu vazhinji vanorwisana nerufu rwomunhu waunoda vangaona kurasikirwa zvakare zvakare uye / kana kunyanya mushure mekuvigwa kana kuburitsa.
Pfungwa apa ndeyokuti "mufaro wakanaka" haisi kungoita mutengo unoguma kana iwe uchibhadhara chikwereti. Zvakanaka, mhemberero yako yakasarudzwa uye / kana muchengeti wekupembera anofanira kupa zvigadzirwa, ruzivo uye mamwe "aftercare" mazano anobvuma kutsungirira kwekutambudzika kwako mumavhiki nemwedzi zvichienderana nebasa, uye kunyange kupa mikana inobatsira yekukubatsira kutsungirira rufu pashure. Vakawanda vanopa, somuenzaniso, kumbira nhengo dzemhuri dzave dzakashanda kune zviitiko zvakakosha munguva dzezororo dzinouya, dzakadai seKrisimasi, Chirangaridzo Chemasikati, Thanksgiving, nezvimwewo nokuti nguva idzi dzinogona kuratidza kunyanya kuoma mukuchema. Vamwe vanopa rubatsiro rwemukati-kana kuti rubatsiro rwekutevera kana kuti vanogona kukubatsira kuti uwane boka rekutsigira rutsigiro munharaunda yako kana uchida. Kunyange zvakadaro, mamwe maitiro ekuti "mabhadhareti ekukweretesa" emabhuku uye mavhidhiyo aunogona kukwereta, kana uchida, izvo zvinogona kupa mazano anobatsira.
Ita Basa Rako Rokuumba
Sezvakataurwa pamusoro apa, kana rufu rwemudiwa wako rukaerekana rwaitika, zvisingatarisirwi kana kuti pasina chirongwa chekugadzirisa-hupenyu-zvisati zvaitika kare, zvino kutsvaga mararamiro ako emariro-uye kuvepa-muchengeti uchaita kuti zvive zvakaoma nekuda kwekukurumidza kwemamiriro ezvinhu. Nokudaro, haufaniri kuita zvechipiri-kufungidzira mutapi wawakamboonana panguva yezvaidiwa. Izvozvo zvakati, kunyange kana munhu waunoda afa, iwe unofanirwa kubvunza panguva yemusangano wakarongeka pamusoro pemhando yekushungurudzika kwekushungurudza inovapo mushure memariro, uye kubvunza chero mimwe mibvunzo iwe ungave nayo pamusoro pezvaunosarudza uye zvigadzirwa, maitirwo, uye mari inobatanidzwa mubasa (s) iwe uri kuronga usati waisa chero chinhu.
Kana iwe uchigadzirira marangariro ako / kurongedza, iwe pachako kana mumwe munhu waunoda, saka shandisa zvakanaka nguva yakanakisisa nokuongorora nekufungisisa nekuviga / kuvaraira vatapi venharaunda yako kuti vawane "kodzero" yakakodzera. Mukuwedzera pakutsvakurudza kweInternet uye kuenzanisa kwekutengesa kwezvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana nemashandiro aunoshuva, unogonawo kushanyira munhu anokwanisa kupa iwe pachako. Pasinei nehupfumi hwemashoko aripo paIndaneti, hapana chinhu chinozvidzivirira pachako uye "pfungwa" iwe uchawana pamusoro pekodzero dzevashandi vemupi uye kuda kwavo kukubatsira iwe kuumba kukodzera, iwe pachako pamariro, musangano wekuyeuchidza, kana mhemberero yekupemberera.
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