Kuvakira zvakakodzera, kunzwira tsitsi kunokosha
Nguva Yenguva refu Kuchengetedza inozivikanwa nokuda kwevashandi vekudzoka kwepamusoro, zvikurukuru pakati peCNA . Zvisinei, paunenge uchibhadharira kukodzera iwe unogona kuwedzera matambudziko apo pachava nevashoma vashandi vanotendeuka. Uye kana iwe uchiramba uchiita vashandi kuongororwa kwenguva refu, unowedzera mukana wekuti vanhu vakanaka vachagara.
Pasina mubvunzo, basa iri rakaoma uye mari yakaoma.
Sezvo ndakadzoka kubva mukukuvara kwakakomba mumatambudziko epamotokari, ndakava mugari wemusha wevanotarisira apo ini ndaive mutungamiriri . Munguva iyi, ndakatanga kushandura nyaya iyi kubva pane imwe nzvimbo yekuona. Kushanda kwakasimba kune zvakakosha, kusanganisira kuenderera kwekutarisira, kuchengetedza mari, nekuvandudza unhu.
Sezvo ndiri mutungamiriri, pandinobvunzurudza mushandi anogona kunge ari kutarisira, ndinotanga nokubvunza, "Saka wakadirei kuva mukoti / CNA pakutanga?" Ndiyo mubvunzo wakanaka wekubwinya kwechando. Munhu wose anogona kuzvipindura, uye zvinondipa maonero ekuziva kuti munhu uyu ndiani. Kazhinji, zvandinonzwa ndezvokuti "Ndinonakidzwa nokukwanisa kuseka kumeso omumwe munhu" kana kuti "Ndinogona kudzidza zvakawanda kubva kune vakwegura" kana kuti "Takarangarira mbuya ini ndichikura uye ndakaona kuti ini kunakidzwa nevakwegura. " Ichokwadi, iyo ndiyo mhinduro dzandinoda-chimwe chinhu chingaita nehukama. Kana ini ndisinganzwi chimwe chinhu pamusoro pehukama, iyo mutsvuku mutsvuku kwandiri.
Iniwo ndine chirwere chepfungwa: Ndaimbova nemunhu aigara mumwanakomana wake aiva gweta. Vaiva mhuri inoshamisa, kunyatsoteerera amai, vachitsigira nzvimbo yacho. Mentally, ini ndakazvifananidza ini ndikatora mari iyi iyi muimba, ndichimuendesa kumwanakomana, uye ndichiti, "Ndinoda kuti unosangana ______. Ndinofunga kuti angava mutarisiri akanaka kuna amai vako." Kana ndisingakwanisi kufungidzira chiitiko ichi, ipapo ndaiziva kuti pane dambudziko.
Kana munhu uyu akabhadhara uye akatungamirirwa, tinomutaurira boka duku revanhu, tichiti tinoda kuti iye ave neukama nemumwe - kunyanya, kutarisira ABOUT, pamwe nekuchengetedza, vanhu ava. Zvose zvinofamba zvakanaka kwechinguva kusvikira kutanga kwemwedzi mitanhatu kana mwedzi wegumi nembiri uchiongorora. Zvino iyo fomu yekuongorora inobuda, iyo inobvunza mibvunzo yakadai se: iwe wakanga usiripo kakawanda sei? Wakawanda sei iwe tardy? Inguva yakawanda sei magwaro ako akakurumidza kana kuti asina? Mune mamwe mazwi, tinobata vashandi kuita zvinhu zvisina kururama zvakashata, panzvimbo pezvinhu zvakanaka.
Iko mafomu ekuongorora aya aibva kupi? Zvichida kubva kufekitari uko kugadzirwa kuri mambo. Ndeipi nguva yekupedzisira iwe wakaona fomu yekuongorora iyo yakati: Ndakakuona iwe uchitora kugara kune imwe kunze zuva rezuva ____ kakawanda gore rino. Ndakakuona iwe unounza kusemwerera chiso chemugere ____ kanengi gore rino. Ndakakuona iwe wakabata ruoko rwekuchema anogara ______ kakawanda gore rino.
Pamusoro pezinga rekusaziva, vashandi vachazotanga kuchinja mukuita kwavo. "Ndaifunga kuti iwe unoda kuti nditore nguva yekurondedzera kune vagari vemo, asi zviri pachena kuti ndinoda kukurumidza zvinhu." Zvino vatungamiri vanotsoropodza vashandi nezvekurapa vagari sezvinhu pane imwe kereke yegungano, vasingazivi kuti isu tisingaiti nemaune tichigadzirira tarisiro iyoyo.
Rimwe zuva ndakasangana neCNA kuimba uye ndichitamba neaigara muimba. Akandiona, chiso chake chakatsvuka, uye akakumbira ruregerero. Sei? Uyu aigara akazivikanwa nekuramba kufamba nevashandi kuti varambe vachifamba. Nokuita kuti basa rifare, ichi CNA chakanga chabudirira kuburikidza nevakagara. Ndakamuudza kuti kwakanga kusina chikonzero chokukumbira ruregerero nokuti ndaifara kuona mutambi achigara, kutamba, uye kunyemwerera.
Ipapo ndakatanga kushamisika, "Ndiri kuitei izvo zvaizoita kuti vashandi vangu vafunge kuti vanofanira kukumbira ruregerero nokuda kwekunakidza uye kukudziridza ukama nevagari? Chii chandinofanira kuchinja kuti nditsigire tsika iyoyo? "
Vanhu vanodzidzisa kuedza uye vanoita kuchiedza. Isu tose tinoda kuongororwa kwakanaka, kusangana kana kudarika zvavanotarisira. Kana tikawana kuti PRODUCTIVITY inokosha pamusoro peRELATIONSHIP, zvino ndizvo zvichagoverwa - robotic, unemotional, dispassionate. Nhasi hutano hwehutano hunotikurudzira "kuita zvakawanda nezvishoma," uye mari haisviki kune vamwe vashandi, naizvozvo kuenzanisa kunoda kuiswa.
Kusiya mhinduro dzemabvunzurudzo kazhinji zvinoratidza kuti chikonzero chikuru chevanhu vanosiya nguva refu kwenguva refu ndekushaya nguva yekuumba hukama nevanogara. Izvi hazvifaniri kuuya sechishamiso; vashandi vedu vanotiudza zvavanoda, uye ndizvo zvakafanana nevatariri, vagari, uye mhuri vanoda: hukama. Uye chimwe chinhu chikuru: zvinogumawo nemigumisiro yehutano hwehutano! Kuisa pfungwa pahukama hunoita kuti munhu akunde.
Ndinokutendai kuna Philip DuBois, CNHA, FACHCA mukupa chikamu ichi. Iye ari Mubatsiri wePurogiramu yeMapurisa, Long-Term Care Administration paSaint Joseph's College of Maine, uye mukurukuri wenyika pamusoro pezvinyorwa zvekurera / kuvabatsira, kurarama semunhu agere muimba yevanamwari apo aive mutungamiri, kuchengetedzwa kwebasa, mitemo, kukanganwirwa, uye mhinduro yechiKristu kune kuchema. Iye ndiye chinyorwa cheMaine Past Past President uye Fellow weAmerican College of Health Care Administrators; chiremera Advent Mushumiri wechiKristu; baba vane chiremera / baba vanorera; nhengo yeTariro yeMaine Kids; Maine Heart Gallery coordinator. Akabudisa CD yemimhanzi yechiKristu, "Songs of Deliverance," muna 2010.