Mubvunzo: Ndingaita sei Mubereki Mwana Akakura Ane Asperger Syndrome
Mwanakomana wangu ane makore 22 ane Asperger Syndrome. Akangwara uye ari kuita zvakanaka mukoroji - asi ari oga. Akasangana nemudzimai ari paIndaneti uyo anoda kuti aende kuCalifornia, uye ndinotya nokuda kwekuchengeteka kwake. Anofunganya nekufamba uye anotenda kuti "shamwari" dziri kumirira iye. Ndingaita sei kuti ndimubatsire kuona kuti angave akatarisana nedambudziko?
Mhinduro: Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadai, zvinosuruvarisa kuti inoratidzika semuongorori ndiye mudzidzisi akanaka. Ndinokwanisa kuona mativi maviri: iyo yevabereki yakagutsikana kuti mwana wavo ari kukanganisa kukanganisa uye achida kuita chinhu chipi zvacho kuti chidzivirire; uye wejaya iro risina kumboona asi kusurukirwa uye kuramba upenyu hwake hwose uye uyo pakupedzisira anotenda kuti ane mukana wekuzviita oga uye kuwana shamwari neshamwari. Haazogutsikana kubva pakurota kwake, uye unogona kukuvadza ukama hwako naye kana iwe ukamanikidza zvakanyanya.
Unogona kumubvunza mibvunzo yakawanda pamusoro pehukama here? Akasangana naye kwenguva yakareba sei, chii chaanofarira, chii icho chaanonyanya kuda pamusoro pake, ndezvipi zvirongwa zvake zvekunge aenda kuCalifornia, chii chinangwa chake cheukama hwakanaka .... mibvunzo yakajeka kana zvichibvira kuti aone kuti anonyatsoziva sei pamusoro pake uye kuti zvakakomba sei, uye kuti ukama hunorevei kwaari.
Kana inonzwika yakakomba uye yakarurama, unogona kununurwa; kana zvisingaiti, iwe unogona kutarisira kumunyengedza zvisiri izvo munzira yakarurama. Chimwe chinhu chaunogona kuita ndomurega aende, asi edza kumuita kuti akupike kuti achadaidza X chiyero chezviitiko pazuva, kuwana nhare yekukurukura iwe sezvaunogona - nhamba yake yefoni nekero, nzira yake, etc.
Ndinofunga kuti kana aigona kunge aine hupenyu hwevanhu, zvichida haazove akatsunga kudzingirira mukadzi uyu kune rimwe gungwa. Uye kusangana nevamwe vanhu pamitambo kuburikidza nemapoka ekutsigira kunogona kumupa iyo. Asi anogona kana asingadi kufarira kudzidza nezveAsperger uye musangano nevamwe vanhu vanehwo.
Ndinoshuva dai ndaigona kukupa chimwe chinhu chakasarudzwa kuita. Kana iye achienda, edzai kumugadzirira kuitira kuti zvingave zvisingaiti zvachose nzira yaanofunga kuti ichada. Mutaurire kuti hukama hunotora nguva uye hausi kuita nguva dzose; chinhu chinonyanya kukosha chaungagona kuita, chaizvoizvo, hachisi chokumupikisa kuitira kuti asanyadziswa zvakare kudzoka kumba kana zvinhu zvikaparara. Ita zvakajeka kwaari kuti iwe unomuda uye uchamutsigira iye pasinei nezvaanoita, uye kuti iwe uchamubatsira nenzira ipi zvayo yaunogona uye kuti nguva dzose ane imba yekudzoka. Tariro, iye achaparadzira mapapiro ake zvishoma uye achengetedza mitsetse yekukurukurirana yakavhurika newe. Mutore foni kana asingatori.