Chero mubereki uyo akatsanangura "shiri nenyuchi" kune mwana zvichida anonzwisisa kuti kunyange zvazvo kukurukurirana uku kunogona kuoma uye kusagadzikana pane dzimwe nguva, kuva nekutaura nezvepabonde, rudo, uye kubereka kunoitwa nemwanakomana kana mwanasikana kunokosha zvikuru uye zvakafanira. Zvinosuruvarisa, kukurukurirana pachena kune mumwe munhu mamiriro ezvinhu ekuti munhu wose achaonawo, kufa uye kufa, kazhinji haachirwi.
Ichi chinyorwa chinopa zvikonzero zvishanu nei kushandisa kuguma-kwe-upenyu kadhi yematokari yemasikiti kunogona kukubatsira iwe kubata hurukuro inokosha nemunhu waunoda.
Chii Chinonzi Upenyu Hwemagumo KaKadhi Game / Deck?
Nhasi, mazita emakadhi emakadhi akawanda anokwanisa kubatsira vanhu kutanga kukurukura pamusoro pemarudzi ose emhando dzinokosha, dzakadai semari nemari yemunhu oga, kuroorana uye hukama, tsika uye unyanzvi hwemagariro evanhu, nezvimwewo. Kusiyana nemitambo yemakadhi yemakadhi inotambidzwa nepamusana wekutamba makadhi, aya emhando dzepamusoro dzinotarisa zvishoma pamakwikwi uye kukunda uye zvizhinji pakubatana kwevanhu uye nekuita kuti vatori vechikamu "vazarurirane" kune mumwe nemumwe. Kunyange zvazvo kazhinji kuchiita, chinangwa chezvizhinji zvezvikwereti izvi ndeyokukurudzira kutaura kwechokwadi uye hurukuro.
Ichi ndicho chinangwa chekuguma-kwe--upenyu-kadhi yematokari yemasitadhi: kukurudzira nekuita kuti kukurukurirana kunobatsira pakati pevatori vechikamu pamusoro pemafungiro avo, mafungiro, uye zvishuvo pamusoro pekuoma kwakaoma-uye nyaya dzine chokuita nerufu.
Makadhi emakadhi akadai seaya anogona kubata pane zvakawanda zvakakosha, zvidzidzo zvevanhu, zvakadai sekurapa kurapwa kwehupenyu; izvo zvinonyanya kukosha sekufa kunoswedera; zvinhu izvo munhu anotarisira kuti achakwanisa kuita, aka yavo "bhuku rakatsetseka"; mhemberero yakajeka, chiyeuchidzo uye kupindira kunoda; kuti anotarisira sei kuyeukwa; nezvimwewo.
Zvikonzero Zvokushandisa Kadhi yemitambo
Kana iwe uchida kukurukura nyaya yekufa uye / kana kufa nemunhu waunoda kuitira kuti udzidze nezvekuda kwavo kwekupedzisira asi zvive zvakaoma kutanga hurukuro iyi, ipapo uchishandisa gumo-re-hupenyu kadi kadhi / mbiru (sezvakaita rinoratidzwa mumufananidzo uri pamusoro) zvingakubatsira kutanga nhaurirano iyi chero ipi zvayo kana zvikonzero zvose zvinotevera:
1. Zviri nyore kupa Purogiramu
Kazhinji, chinetso chakaoma kwazvo chatinosangana nacho pamusoro pekuguma kwehupenyu hwemumwe munhu huripo mupfungwa dzedu apo tinotambudzika kuti tione kuti tingakwanisa sei kunyora nyaya ye "kufa" uye / kana kufa nemunhu waunoda . Kufanana nevakawanda vabereki vane basa rekutsanangura "shiri uye nyuchi" kumwana pakutanga vanotya hurukuro iyi, zvinowanzofananidza kufungidzira kuti kukurukurirana pamusoro pekuguma kwehupenyu hwemudiwa wako kunofanirwa kutamba sei. Kazhinji, tinoshandisa kugadziriswa kwese kunofungidzirwa kana dambudziko rinonzwisisika sechimwe chikonzero chekusiya iyo hurukuro inokosha uye haisi kumboitika.
Ichokwadi ndechokuti iwe haunowani kuwana nguva yakakwana, nzvimbo kana mazwi kuti utange hurukuro yehupenyu pamusoro pekufa kana kufa pamwe nemunhu waunoda, ndicho chikonzero chedu, kuguma-kwe--upenyu-kadhi yemutambo / mbambo inogona kubatsira.
Panzvimbo pokutamburira kutaura, "Hey, Unodiwa, unoda kuti ndivige kana kuisa muviri wako?" iwe unogona kuona zviri nyore kuratidza, "Hey, Unodiwa, ndinoda kutamba mutambo wekadhi newe ..." kukubatsira kuwana mhinduro kumubvunzo uyu nezvimwe zvakawanda.
Ndapota zivai kuti izvi hazvisi zveku "kunyengera" mumwe munhu kubata hurukuro iyi yakaoma-asi-inokosha ! Zviri pachena kuti mudiwa wako achakurumidza kuziva humiro yehurukuro iyi kana iwe uchitanga kushandisa kadhi yemakadhi, uye kana iye angaramba kutamba, hurukuro yako icharamba ichienderera mberi kana wanyora nyaya yacho.
2. Unogona kuvimba nemakadhi
Sezvo iwe ungaona zvakaoma kuti utore nyaya yerufu rwomunhu waunoda uye izvo zvaangada, uchishandisa kadhi rakagadziriswa yemakadhi ekupedzisira anoshuvira anogona kukubatsira kubvunza mubvunzo (s) kana une dambudziko rokuyeuka kana kuwana zvakaoma kubvunza chimwe chinhu zvinonzwika. Kunyange zvazvo kadhi iri rakagadzirira kupa nzira dzakawanda dzekubata kuguma-kwe--kukurukurirana kweupenyu ( ona "Inokurudzira Kugadzikana / Kuita Munhu" pasi apa ), zviri nyore nyore kuvimba nemashoko emakadhi ese pasinei nokuti unosarudza sei kushandisa zviduku izvi.
Sezvakambotaurwa, kukurukura nezvekupedzisira kwehudiwa wehupenyu kunogona kuve kwakaoma pane imwe nguva, ndicho chikonzero tinowanzopedza hurukuro iyi pakutanga. Nokudaro, kana iwe ukazviwana uri kukura mupfungwa pane imwe nguva, unogona kukangamwa kubvunza mubvunzo kana kunzwa wakakundikana kutaura chimwe chinhu nemashoko iwe unoda kana kuti unoda kuziva. Mune mamiriro ezvinhu aya, kuvimba muvharo rekupedzisira rekuda kadi uye mibvunzo yakagadziriswa inogona kukubatsira kuti uchengetedze kuguma-kwe-hupenyu hurukuro inofamba, uye / kana kukubatsira kuti uwane chero nguva ipi zvayo yakaoma.
3. "Handina Kufunga Nezvo"
Zvichida, dai iwe wakabvunzwa kunyora pasi mubvunzo umwe neumwe waunoda kubvunza waunoda nezvido zvake zvekupedzisira, iwe unogona kuuya ne 10 kana kuti 20. Rimwe rubatsiro rwekushandisa kadhi yemapuraneti ekupedzisira mutambo ndeyekuti mabheji akawanda ane mibvunzo yakawanda yemibvunzo, uye vazhinji vavo vanobata pane zvidzidzo zvingangodaro zvisingafungi kubvunza.
Semuenzaniso, chimwe chezvikonzero zvinowanzoita vanhu vasina kuguma-kwe-upenyu kukurukurirana ndechokuti vazhinji vedu tinonzwa kutya kwekufa nekufa uye hatidi kungofunga nezvekufa kwedu. Kutya kwakadaro, zvisinei, kunogona kuumba zvakasimba uye kukanganisa zvido zvedu zvekupedzisira, asi iwe ungambofunga here kubvunza wako waunoda kuti ataure zvaanotya nezvekufa kana chii chinovhundusa pamusoro perufu? Mhinduro yacho ingangodaro ichinyanya kukosha uye yakanyatsogadzirisa hurukuro iyi asi iwe unogona kunge usingazvizive kana iwe usingabvunzi.
Saizvozvowo, kuguma-kwe-hupenyu kadhi kadiki inogona kuunza mamwe mimwe mibvunzo inogona kunge isingaiti kwauri, yakadai se:
- Unoda kuti rufu rwako ruzivise pamasangano ehupfumi, zvakadai se Facebook kana Twitter?
- Zvakakosha sei kuti ufe pakati pemhuri yako / shamwari uye kwete iwe pachako?
- Wakatora matanho ekudzivirira mhirizhonga yemhuri mushure mekunge mushure mekunge musati mafa, zvakadai sekuda kwepamutemo kana hukuru hwehutano hwehutano ?
- Ungada here ini kana chiremba wako kuti akuudze chokwadi pamusoro pekuregererwa kwehupenyu?
- Iwe unofungei mazwi paunonzwa izwi rokuti "hospice"?
4. Kunobvisa Kukurukurirana Kubva Kune Mumwe Munhu
Iwe unganzwa sei kana mumwe munhu akamira pamberi pako akabata bhadhibhodhi uye akakukumbira boka remibvunzo yakananga yemunhu? Haunzwisisiki? Kubvunzurudzwa? Kutsvaga mukana wekutanga wokutiza? Zvinosuruvarisa, izvi zvinowanzoita kuti kuguma-kwe-upenyu kukurukurirana kunogona kunzwa kumunhu achiita zvose kupindura sezvaanogara munzvimbo inoonekwa nomunhu anenge achibvunza mibvunzo.
Runako uye simba rekuguma-kwe--musi-kadhi yemutambo yemasitadhi / nzvimbo yepamusoro ndeyokuti inobvisa kubvisa hukama hwevabvunzurudza / kubvunzurudzwa nekubvisa pfungwa kubva kune mumwe munhu uye, pane kudaro, kukurudzira hurukuro yechokwadi pakati pevanhu vaviri kana kupfuura. Kazhinji, munhu chaiyo anoda kutanga mutambo uyu unokosha nemunhu waunoda achakurumidza kuwana iye pachawo achigovana pfungwa nemanzwiro ake mukupindura mibvunzo inobvunzwa nemakadhi aya, kana kupindura kune mumwe munhu wepedyo, kuzarura mhinduro (s ).
Uyezve, hazvishamisi, kana inguva inotanga kukurukura, kune dzimwe nhengo dzemhuri uye neshamwari "dzinongoda kuteerera" zvakare kubatana nehurukuro yekupedzisira-hupenyu sezvo vanonzwa mamwe emibvunzo inobvunzwa kana mhinduro dzakapiwa.
5. Inokurudzira kugadzikana / kuitevedzera
Mamwe mitambo yemakadhi ekupedzisira-ye-upenyu, kusanganisira iyo inoratidzwa mumufananidzo uri pamusoro, inopa mirayiridzo yekuti ungashandisa sei chikwata kuti utore huwandu hwechikumbiro chekupedzisira-chido. Zvimwe zvinoratidza kuti mumwe nomumwe aripo anofanira kupindura / kurukura mubvunzo iwoyo usati wasarudza kadhi kadi, asi vamwe vanotaura kuti vanhu vanofananidza makadhi ose maererano nezvavanofunga nezvazvo zvikuru - zvichikosha-zvichikosha vasati vaenderera mberi, kana chimwe chinhu chiri pakati.
Mukuwedzera, mapepa emakadhi akadai seaya anowanzopa huwandu hune simba hwekuti vanhu vangani vanogona kutora chikamu muchikamu chinopiwa. Kunyange zvazvo kazhinji zvichida kugadzirisa nyaya iyi inokosha yekupedzisira-ye-hupenyu pakati pevanhu vaviri , inenge imwe yega yega yekuda-kadhi yemasikoni / mbatya inogona kugadzirisa vanhu vatatu kana kupfuura, iyo inogona kukurudzira kukurukurirana kunobatsira pakati pemwana pamwe nevabereki vake vose, somuenzaniso, kana pakati pemhuri yakakura, kana kunyange boka guru revanhu, pasinei kana / kana ivo vakawirirana sei.
Zvakare (uye ini ndinogovera izvi kubva pane zvakaitika kwauri), kana iwe ukatenga chimwe chezvikupedzisira-zve-hupenyu makadhi / mapoka emakadhi, zvinenge zvisingaiti kuti usatsvaira chigadziko uye fungisisa kuti unonzwa sei pamusoro pemibvunzo yakasiyana-siyana inobvunzwa kana uripo iwe pachako. Mune mamwe mazwi, vazhinji vanofanotanga-kutamba makadhi emakadhi / mapoka, kana zvisikwa kana kungoenderana nemamiriro ehurukuro yavo, vachakuedza iwe "kutamba" solo.
Usingafungi kana kwete, unotarisana nemanzwiro ako ega uye maonero pamusoro pezvinhu zvakakosha-neyekufa nyaya dzakakonzerwa nemakadhi aya paanenge achitamba "solitaire" zvinogonawo kukugadzirira iwe pakupedzisira kuguma-kwe-mararamiro aunoda kubata nemumwe munhu.
Pakupedzisira, kunyange zvazvo mazhinji emakadhi emakadhi / mapeji anopa mirayiridzo, usanetseka kana kuguma-kwe--kukurukurirana kweupenyu, kwatangotanga, kunokanganisa uye kunyange kutenderera "kubva pane script" pasinei nemirairo yepakutanga (uye iyo yakanyatsonaka! ) Kuomerera kune mirayiridzo yakapiwa nechekupedzisira-zvido zvekadhi yemapadhi / mapaiti nyaya zvishoma kudarika kubata kukurukurirana zvine chinangwa nemunhu waunoda (ma) pamusoro pemafungiro avo, mafungiro uye zvishuvo pamusoro pematambudziko anofa-uye ane chokuita nehupenyu.
Nzira Yokutenga Deck
Nokuda kwechimiro chinokosha chekushandisa kwekukurukurirana uye nyaya yaro, iwe unogona kuwana nzvimbo yekupedzisira-yeupenyu-kadhi yemasitadhi / yedhenari paIndaneti panzvimbo yekutengesa zvidhina-uye-matope. Mazhinji emakadhi aya ekutengesa anotengeswa mutengi-anotungamirirwa nebhizimisi kana sangano rakavasika. Kunyange zvazvo mamwe maitiro aripo, unogona kuwana mamwe mashoko nezvemagariro ekupedzisira-mapikicha emakadhi anoratidzwa pamusoro apa pa:
• Mutambo Wekukurukurirana, Mharidzo yeUpenyu
• Fink: Kutarisa Kutarisira, Fink Cards
• Go Go Wish Game, Coda Alliance
• Mwoyo2 Unonzwa: Pamberi pekugadzirira, Kurukura mazano
• Chipo Changu Chokunaka, Chiito Chinodiwa
Munyori anoonga nomwoyo wose makambani ari pamusoro apa kupa mapepa emakadhi emakadhi avo panguva yekugadzirisa nyaya ino.
Sources:
"Kudya muAmerica: Kuvandudza Unhu neKubvumira Zvaunoda Zvimwe Pamusoro Pokuguma kweUpenyu" neThe Institute of Medicine, musi waSeptember 17, 2014.